Come to think of it, We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. Love is a beautiful thing, I've come to discover that the creator of the universe is a Lover. That is to say that God is Love and Love is God.
WHAT IS LOVE
I want you to know that Love encompasses a variety of different emotional and mental states, typically strongly and positively experienced, ranging from the deepest interpersonal affection to the simplest pleasure as it is defined by wikipedia.
And I'll like to say from my own point of view as a believer, that Love is the nature of God. 1 cor. 13 explained more about love and says Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely. Love does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
What love is not:
Love is not an emotion, Love is not an addiction, Love is not sex, Love is not attraction, Love is not an insanity, Love is not infatuation, Love is not a weakness, Love is not harmful.
What love is:
Love is awesomely natural, Love is desire for the well-being of the loved, Love is the great positive force, Love is deep connection, Love is healing and healthful, Love is passionately compassionate, Love is Divine spiritual essence.
TYPES OF LOVE
- Eros or Erotic Love.
Eros was the word often used to express sexual love
or the feelings of arousal that are shared between people who are physically attracted to one another. I'll likened it to the yellow flame, which burns out fast, quenches fast.
Philia or Affectionate Love. brotherly love
Aristotle divides friendships into three types, based on the motive for forming them: friendships of utility,
friendships of pleasure and friendships of the good.Storge or Familiar Love.
familial love refers to natural or instinctual
affection, such as the love of a parent towards
offspring and vice versa.Ludus or Playful Love.
Ludus is a game-playing or uncommitted love . Lying
is part of the game. A person who pursues ludic love
may have many conquests but remains uncommitted.Mania or Obsessive Love.
Mania coming from the term manic usually flows out of a desire to hold one's partner in high esteem and wanting to love and be loved in this way seeing specialness in the interaction. This type of love leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It is represented by the color purple, as it is a mix between ludus and eros.Pragma or Enduring Love.
Pragma is the most practical type of love,
not necessarily derived out of true romantic love. Rather, pragma is a convenient type of love.
Pragmatic lovers have a notion of being of service which they perceive to be rational and realistic. While they may be sincere about being useful themselves it also translates to also having expectations in a partner and of the relationship.Philautia or Self Love.
In its negative form philautia is the selfishness that
wants pleasure, fame, and wealth beyond what one
needs. Narcissus, who falls in love with his own
reflection, exemplifies this kind of self- love . In its
positive form philautia refers to a proper pride or self-
love .Agape or Selfless Love.
Christian term referring to love, the highest form of love, charity and the love of God for man and of man for God. Important aspect of agape love is that it
extends beyond emotions. It's much more than
a feeling or sentiment. Agape love is active. It
demonstrates love through actions.
THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGE
- Words of affirmation:
One way to express love emotionally is to use
words that build up. Solomon, author of
ancient Hebrew Wisdom Literature, wrote,
"The tongue has the power of life and
death" (Proverbs 18:21, NIV). Many couples
have never learned the tremendous power of
verbally affirming each other.
Quality time:
By "quality time," I mean giving someone your
undivided attention. I don't mean sitting on
the couch watching television together. What I
mean is sitting on the couch with the TV off,
looking at each other and talking, devices put
away, giving each other your undivided
attention. It means taking a walk, just the two
of you, or going out to eat and looking at each
other and talking.Receiving gifts::
Almost everything ever written on the subject
of love indicates that at the heart of love is the
spirit of giving. All five love languages
challenge us to give to our spouse, but for
some, receiving gifts, visible symbols of love,
speaks the loudest.Acts of service
By acts of service, I mean doing things you know your spouse would like you to do. You seek to please her
by serving her, to express your love for her by doing things for her.Physical touch:
As its been known that physical touch is a
way of communicating emotional love.
Numerous research projects in the area of
child development have made that conclusion:
Babies who are held, stroked and kissed
develop a healthier emotional life than those
who are left for long periods of time without
physical contact.
WHY LOVE
When the topic 'love' is been discussed, we should not limit our thought to emotions and feelings or even sex. Love is a wide topic that goes beyond that.
Our lives individually
Self- love is a combination of self confidence, high self esteem, courage, self-acceptance, self-
possession, self-awareness, kindness, and respect for ourselves. Believe it or not, some people find that they are the hardest person to love in their lives. ... No one is going to love you if you don't love yourself, so
learning to love yourself is critical.Family
Without love , money loses value. Love is more
important than money. You work to provide for
yourself and your family. Having the love of
someone is very important , because humans are very sociable, and it is very important to have close
relationships with people you can always turn to. A family filled with love is a family filled with live.
Friends:-
Friendship love may have saved more lives than any other kind of love! Friendship love may help people through hard times as much as any other type of love! Friendship love is often the longest lasting type of love in many people’s lives. For lots of people friendship love has been the most reliable kind of love in their lives. One of the reason I'm why I get to know about steemit is due to friendly love.
Relationship
Possibly, but that does not change the fact that people today use the word "love " like it is any other word in the dictionary, such as pizza or Toronto for example. Sometimes we lose sight of what is really important because we think loving someone is the sole reason to be in a relationship, but it's not.
Society
Love, compassion, a common sense of community- any synonym to the word ' love '- binds people together. Society functions because humans combine efforts together and accomplish feats.
REASONS WHY LOVE IS THE BEST SOLUTION FOR THE WORLD
1.Love Makes You Feel Invincible
Love makes you feel as if you can do anything.
Your approach on life is brighter and happier. You
have courage to do things you didn’t think you
were able to do.
- Love Gives You Incredible Inspiration
Being in love makes you feel inspired. It gives you
a can-do attitude that you can approach anything,
anywhere, anytime. Being in love gives you
motivation. Your attitude is optimistic and always
positive. - Love Makes You Happy
When you’re in love, you’re blissfully happy all the
time. - Love Makes You A Hopeful Romantic
Falling in love makes you a romantic. Love gives
you hope that there is a perfect person out there
for you. - Love Makes You Eliminate Your Fear
Love makes you fearless. The things you used to
fear disappear in love. - Love Makes You Be The Best Version of
Yourself - Love Makes You Rich
Love is one of the richest commodity in the universe - Love Makes You Selfless
A true lover is never selfish. - Love Makes You Believe
CONCLUSION
True love is never blind, it is an eye opener. Don't give up on love, believe in it and you'll surely conquer. Don't ever forget, no love is true until it is founded on GOD.
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