Sometimes, I sit and think afar and aloud, I ask myself "why am I fair in complexion"? Is not like I am not grateful to God for creating me that way. Sincerely i am very happy to be a light skinned lady but the society where I find myself makes me worry if we fair ladies actually get ourselves TRUE LOVEor what we get is obsessed guys. I am a big supporter of the fact that men fall for what they see and this mainly includes the most important asset a woman possess which is the (BOOBS & ASS). This balls down to the very reason that keeps me wondering why guys will still run after an almost completely flat girl all because she is a fair lady.

According to a research from Toronto University, it was discovered that men are more attracted to ladies with fair skin because of its association with innocence, purity, modesty, virginity, and goodness but based on my own local research, I think that's a lie.

Categorically, my Nigerian brothers fall in love with you not because you are tall, well mannered, humble, innocent, modest but majorly because of your "yellow" colour. They get attracted to you because you are light skinned and this makes you attractive. The most annoying part of it all is that you are been likened to a **MAMI WATER ** (mermaid) all because we are light skinned. Please who came up with the theory that mermaids are only light skinned?

I am a living testimony to this. I have met guys who are not ready to know the real me, but are only interested in the light skinned lady that I am. They don't want to know what an intelligent me is trying to offer, they are not ready to see the true emotions my heart is trying to pump out. All they care about is the glowing skin under the skirt and them wanting to have a taste. It makes it really hard to tell if a guy really loves you or not.

Another factor that pisses me off alot is when people conclude and finalise on the fact am an Igbo girl. I am not venting my anger because of the fact that I am mistakened for an Igbo girl but the fact that people keep poke nosing in matters that does not concern them. One of my horrible experience I had once happened when I was in a taxi on my way home back from school. I was the only lady in the taxi with three other guys. After some minutes into our journey, I noticed a strange look from the guys but I still kept calm even though I was becoming a bit scared.

Some while later, one of the three guys started insulting me in Yoruba saying "this girl is just fair but she won't be really fine in reality if she was dark" please were we in a fake life? and the other guy was like "don't mind the girl, she will be very rude and I am not surprised because that's how all Igbo girls behave. They made this foolish assumption without asking me any question or knowing the stuff am made up of. DO YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW I DEALT WITH THIS GUYS?

I kept quiet pretending I did not understand them at all, I let them say all they felt like without blinking and made them feel I was not a Yoruba girl. When i was about getting down from the taxi, I stared into their eyes and spoke to them with a thicker version of Yoruba telling them to learn how to bridle their tongues because not every human they see is a normal being. I also reminded them of the adage that says not all that glitters is gold and that they should not always be a judge of what they aren't sure of. I spitted on the floor and told them that they will see what will happen to them by the end of the day. Of course, it was an empty threat but they were shocked and scared. They were trying to apologise on their kneels but I left angrily and was feeling my self.

I love the fact that I am a fair girl, I love the fact my complexion attract people but in reality I don't like it when people don't get close to me but make personal conclusions about me. I don't like it when they don't want to know the girl but are interested in the colour.

All i am asking is

GET TO KNOW ME, GET TO UNDERSTAND ME AND KNOW OF MY INNER BEAUTY. MY INNER BEAUTY INCLUDES MY INNOCENCE, PURITY, SOCIAL LIFE AND SO MANY GOOD THINGS IN ME and not just beneath the skirt.

I AM WONDERFULLY AND BEAUTIFULLY MADE BY GOD

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