Hot Temper habit isn't just about what happens at the moment of action, and demonstrating the level of temper one has either it's a stage 1, 2, 3 or others alone. It's about the footprints those actions and words leaves behind.
Temper habits run through emotions and once it is given the dominance to rule over the person's body or emotions, then there is absolutely no way the carrier of this habit won't lose themselves in the process as long as the mood is activated. The worse part is that it takes long search before seeing those who are actually temperamental that can control themselves and not misbehaving whenever they feel upset.
I have been with someone who has a very high temper and the worst is that she admits that she has this habit not because she want to get you terrified at the knowledge of it or feel proud about it per say but just so you can know how to act around her or caution yourself on whatever you do that annoys her.
There are times that these temper issues has made her do things she later regrets which are not redeemable, there are times her actions had put her in trouble and unable to take herself out of the mess she had caused but then someone else that she values so much in her life had to pay the price.
Just like a popular saying that "never make a promise when you're too happy and never speak when you are annoyed" cos any words said at these two moments are never from the depth of your heart but flowed through uncontrollable emotions to your mouth.
It is not an excuse that anyone is temperamental and that I must or should learn to live with it cos I've once spoken with someone trying to correct what he did and the next thing I heard was "Kenny, you should know me by now that this is the way I do". Bro! You should change and not asking me to adapt to knowing that bad side of you as a permanent case of study.
We are not born as being perfect but we have the capacity to groom ourselves to walk through perfection and that's in the sense of scolding yourself to become a better person as long as your actions causes other to feel hurt or make them feel uneasy. Be calm whenever you're in situations that gets you upset, filter your words before been said or even walk away if it's not worth it.
If there was no room for adjustments on lifestyles, policies or decisions then there won't be this established fact of Change = K (constant) in physics or so.
You claim to have temper and then destroy things you bought with your money because you were upset and the funny thing is the slogan of "I destroy things when I'm angry" lol. Like I laughed the first time I heard that and deep down in me I was saying "sis, you need to be delivered".
As a society, I don't think we have much to do in this case since this habit is a personal thing and if it will be corrected, it has to do with personal determination for growth and development.
All we just need to do as a society is not to retaliate in violence with anyone with this temper issue. Silence does not make us a fool but then it can speak personal sense and realization to the person who's suffering from this temper issues especially when they're calm, and coupled with our show of love when correcting them on this act.
Anger or hot temper is a FEELING but how you handle it is a CHOICE
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