We all have a lot of anger in us. Many can control their emotions while many cannot. And anger is something that is very difficult to control for all of us, but there are many people whose patience is so great that their anger is always under control. Some people do not get angry unless it is excessive. However, there are many people who keep showing unnecessary anger towards their children. They scold their children unnecessarily for small matters and discipline them a lot. If we scold our children unnecessarily, the love of the child for us decreases a lot and with it, the respect that they should have for us from childhood is not born in the child's mind. As the child grows up, due to our misbehavior and constant scolding, their respect for us decreases and ends completely, and the children do not have any respect for us.
When children are young, we should constantly explain to them what is good and what is bad. If they misbehave, we should constantly explain to them, then they will understand well and understand the reason why they should not misbehave. If we constantly explain to small children the reason not to misbehave, why they should do good deeds, then they will never do those misbehaviors again. They will always do good deeds. But there are many parents who have very little patience, so they unnecessarily shout and scold their children a lot, due to which children start to be very afraid from childhood and lose respect for their parents. In fact, children are not only afraid and cannot respect their parents because of their parents' scolding, they also lose a lot of confidence in themselves. If children show unnecessary anger when they are angry, children lose interest in doing anything on their own.
If we show unnecessary anger towards children, then children lose interest in doing any good work or creative thinking and work on their own, as well as they lose interest in expressing their wishes or thoughts to their parents. Children who grow up seeing constant anger from their parents constantly think that their parents will never understand their state of mind and if they tell their parents what they think, their parents will scold them again, so they will think that it is better to keep their own problems to themselves. And because of these thoughts, they can make many wrong decisions in life. If parents constantly show anger to their children and keep them under scolding and discipline, the distance between the child and the parents increases a lot and misunderstanding starts to develop. The child never understands the mind of the parents and the parents never know the mind of the children.
If parents only show anger to their children and keep them under strict discipline from a young age, then when those parents grow old, those children also show that anger and strict discipline towards them. But children are not wrong in this behavior because they have learned such behavior from their parents since childhood and they apply that behavior to their parents from the teachings of their parents. Therefore, we must first consider how we will treat our children, and the behavior they learn will also be treated with us. Excessive anger and excessive discipline are never good. If we show unnecessary scolding or anger, children constantly become irritable and they also learn to behave in anger and today. Therefore, before showing anger to parents and before subjecting them to strict discipline, we must think that this behavior will return to them in old age, in fact, the way we raise our children from childhood, they will become people, the way we treat them, they will also treat us later, so we should always think carefully and calmly without showing anger and explain them to them and raise them to be good-hearted people.