The physical is the outside, the emotion the inside. So long as we try to manipulate the outside in order to achieve the desired inside, we will follow the principle 'Life dictates, we adapt'. It is once we grasp that we have most fundamental power over our emotional experience that the physical will reflect that back to us. Now there is no doubt left: WE dictate, life adapts.
Any event which is most closely related to our Heart's and Soul's well-being cannot possibly be experienced as being 'beyond our control' as long as we are aware that our most quintessential creative power lies in the ability to choose our emotional Self-expression.
Whichever emotion you choose, there is no way for the Universe but to provide you with all insights, infomation, experiences and events necessary to enable your shifting onto the emotional self-expression chosen.
For you are the Universe.