Every bachelor prays to be a husband someday and a father thereafter but some thing deep down tells me that all is not well somewhere.
There are myraid of thoughts running through our mind about this eternal deal called marriage. We admire happy couples as they celebrate their anniversaries but we becomes scared to sign up.
SOME OF THESE REASONS ARE....
- THE FEAR OF A BAD WIFE: Someone may ask who a bad wife is? A bad wife is certainly a heavy nightmare to a man, a dream never come through, a shadow in disguise and what have you. Most bachelors out there are very scared of bringing someone that will end their joy and cut their life short, one who is out to infuse rancor and hate into the family he has known all his life, etc. But my question now is "for how long will you wait?". There is always a difference out there. Take a bold step, look out through the veranda and behold that different one.
- THE FEAR OF LOOSING THEIR LIFE FORTUNES: Some dudes have built the mentality that some marriages are wrecking grounds. They are so afraid of loosing all they have laboured for in years past all because of marital responsibilities and most importantly, a bad marriage. But today I say to you "YOUR LIFE FORTUNE IS SAFER IN THE HANDS OF A GOOD WIFE". If only you can take her to your father to bless rather than do FREE WAGOLO on her as years pass.
- THE THOUGHT OF FEEDING ON ONE SOUP: Staying away from sealing the deal all because of consumption of ONE SOUP is called foolishness. The very soup you claim to be one, can be turned to different varieties depending on its packaging. Instead of waste your limited sperm on different woman, why not wrap it up with ONE SHE. Make her yours instead of leave her a prey in hands of other men.
- THE FEAR OF LONG TERM FAMILY MAINTENANCE: It is true that nobody goes to get a wife empty-handed. On the other hand, it is so unfortunate, painful and disheartening that most of the promising dudes out there have no steady source of income to maintain themselves let alone a family. But my question to you is "what happened to savings and planning?" If that bae of yours must be taken home legally then you must enrol yourself in something tangible and genuine to earn a living, plan and save alongside. Don't fold your hands and wait on Buhari for a white-collar job because it may come with your possession of grey hairs.
- THE HEAT OF PAST RELATIONSHIPS: Yes it is true. Men are still living with the wounds of their past relationships but I tell you today "for how long will you wait". The hour is now, pick up those pieces and move on. Ezigbo nwaanyi will heal the wounds and clot the blood.
- FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN: There is no unknown in marital journey. We all know that in our subconscious mind, that human beings are bound to change from what they use to be. To conquer the unknown, you must be ready to condone, understand and in all, accept. Prayer conquers the unknown.
- IN SEARCH OF A PERFECT WIFE: The only truth I must tell you today is that there is no perfect wife here on earth. All you need do is "SEEK and look for a WOMAN that gives you PEACE OF MIND & BLESSINGS". Don't be a chronic bachelor maka search of perfect wife. The last time I checked our mothers and sisters aren't perfect either.
So my dear AWAITING BACHELOR, it's high time, WE conquer these fears and take a bold step into sealing the deal. GROWING OLD WITH YOUR KIDS IS THE FULFILMENT OF EVERY MAN.
MAY GOD HELP & DIRECT US AS WE TAKE THE BOLD STEP TOWARDS A MARITAL RELATIONSHIP!!! AMEN