What Kind of Person are You?
Are you perpetually tardy, type-A personality, or maybe a poor writer?
Where did those beliefs come from?
A judgemental teacher, a circle of friends who label you a certain way, or maybe from yourself?
We all have an image of the type of person we are. Some of these are positive, and some are detrimental to moving forward and making changes.
We act according to the image we create of ourselves
Each person has a self-image - a mental blueprint that describes the kind of person she is. This is all-important conception of self contains the beliefs she holds about herself based on past experiences, successes and failures.
Your negative bliefs aren't a result of facts or experiences, rahter the conclusions you draw from them.
Therefore, rational thinking - can be used to control your unconscious mind. To start uprooting the beliefs that create your sense of ineriority, ask, "why?"
Being aware of what causes failure is key to achieving success.
The factors that lead to failure can be readily summed up by an acronym of the word FAILURE itself.
First comes Frustration, which arises when you feel you can't realize an important goal. This produces a self-fulfilling prophecy as you think of yourself as incapable and are therefore more likely to fail.
Next is Aggressivnesss. This energy can help you achieve your goals, but in a failure-type personality all that aggression is directed toward self-destructive tendencies like worry and rudeness, rather than a worthy aim.
Third comes Insecurity or feeling like you don't live up to requirements. Interestingly enough, insecurity is often caused not by a real lack of ability, but by distorted system of measurement. In other words, if you compare yourself to an imaginary, likely impossible ideal, you'll never feel self-assurance.
Fourth up is Loneliness, the feeling of being alienated from others. Lonely people cut themselves off from the roads that could lead to a healthy social enviroment, fail to act and struggle to achieve.
The fifth trait of failure is Uncertainty or avoiding mistakes by never making decisions at all. It's a failure to act and achieve goals, precipitated by the false premise that you shouldn't act if you're not certain you'll succeed. Since no certain path can be found, no decision is made, and you're safe from failure - or success, for that matter.
Sixth comes Resentment, an attempt to make personal failure more digestible by blaming it on unfair treatment.
And last is Emptiness, a symptom of failure itself. This feeling results from the sense that life is boring and no pursuit is worth attaining.
If you notice any or all of the above traits in yourself, it's time to make a change.