Knowing that we have the power to harm others with our words should prevent us from hastily using the wrong words. Sadly, that knowledge is not enough to stop us from hurting others with what we say. Sometimes, for some who are truly repentant, just the thought of how they have inflicted emotional injury on someone else is enough to cause bouts of guilt.
However, the first step to tackling an issue is knowing the cause. Next is acknowledging that you're the cause. Then lastly, making deliberate efforts to avoid making the same mistakes. I call these steps the "RADE", i.e., Recognition, Acknowledgement, Deliberate Efforts.
The Signs
- You are always right even when you're wrong.
- You are obsessed with control.
- You find it difficult to give well deserve praise to others.
- You often tell people what to do, resentfully take over and make fun of their efforts.
- You seem to be stubborn, impatient and never willing to forgive.
- You are never satisfied or happy with life.
- You feel that no one can do anything right or not as good as you.
Note: The above traits may be evident in someone who is depressed but note the difference. A depressed person secludes himself from interacting with people and may possess feelings of worthlessness or low self esteem, whilst an abusive person feels he is better than everyone else and degrades others around him.
If you feel that you possess the stated behaviours, admit it and get on with a solution.
In my next post, I would outline ways to curb this traits.
By Asa J.
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