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There is only one way to do this ... hack yourselfRainer Maria Rilke
The more we influence ourselves, the closer we are to the formulation of our unique version. We were more distinguished, the more people admired us, the more we admired ourselves, and the more we managed to cope with the continuous attempts of human beings to put us into a mold and turn it into a duplicate. So, in this article you have the following points that will definitely help you to penetrate yourself and influence yourself.
First, there are things that can not be controlled
Every time we discover and make sure that the concern about something has no role and does not help in solving problems. So, you do not have to continue to worry at all, but you have to search and follow another method.Learn what you can change, change it, and if you can not change something, learn to live with it, in other words, change your attitude about what you can not control, and make yourself live with it in peace.If you sign a peace agreement with the matter, you will be able to stop worrying about it.Anxiety about something you can not change, just like being in a hole and continuing to drill faster; just because you feel you're doing something, but in fact everything you do is only worse. Stop worrying; it gives you room to think and allows new ideas to flow to you.You have to realize that every life has both positive and negative dimensions. So, let what you can not control and control, and invest your energy in what you can change things.
Second: Let go of the past
The first is to focus only on ourselves and how to make the future better instead of thinking about the past and why it was bad. For example, there is no need to point out what others have done, and to focus on what happened to them and what is wrong with them and why they did this or that. You will not gain anything from it!We learn from the past, but we do not live in it, but we live today and try as much as possible to invest to secure a better future. Do not forget to live the moment and enjoy discovering all its beauty, do not postpone the enjoyment of the day for the future or will not be tested forever, and does not stand in the past or will lose the present and the future together already.
Third: Focus on what is important
Life is full of many useful experiences and practices, so do not waste your physical and emotional energy on trivial matters. This will definitely help you eliminate what Marshall Goldsmith calls "the illusion of life" that we all live everywhere by wasting our time in practices such as watching television Yellow newspapers, follow-up gossip programs, join groups of personal gossip, etc.).It's easy to get together to talk about a person's negativity, or to discuss again and again about the latest event, or a story about a personal aspect of a celebrity's life, but by indulging in it you have fallen into the trap of talking about others rather than discovering how you can make a difference. Your life at all levels.There is a lot of nonsense in our daily discussions and conversations, most of which are not important at all, and to save your time. Rule 10/10/10 is really an ideal way to do this. It is that you have to think about whether this topic really deserves to spend time? And then answer these three questions:
- Will this benefit after 10 hours from now?
- Will it benefit after 10 days from now?
- Will it benefit 10 years from now?
Looking ahead will help you determine the actual value of the order. Yes, you can discuss and argue until you have proved right and you are right, but is this worth seeing an effective investment for your time ?!
Fourth: Invest in yourself
This is not selfish. On the contrary, if I am not interested in myself, I can not pay attention to others. In fact, investing in yourself is what allows you to invest in others. According to the principle of the lost thing does not give him; this is the natural flow of life.Investing in yourself may mean making some money, time and energy to contribute to your development and your personal development.
Fifth: Request feedback or feedback
The FEEDBACK feature It allows you to learn the new information and skills you need, to develop your own self and to observe your negative aspects to fix it, but it makes you more transparent and helps you to open up.The goal of receiving feedback or feedback is not to please others at all, but to help you learn more about yourself, and then develop it. On the other hand, the more open and your personal curiosity becomes, the more attractive you are. The owners of this type of character often have the transparency to make them trustworthy, characterized by optimism, flexibility, balance, joy, etc. People are not attracted to perfection, but transparency is what attracts them!One of the biggest challenges in life is to influence yourself in a world that seems to deliberately paralyze your movement, and constantly presses you; to be a mirror image of the vast majority of human beings. But there is always someone who is richer, more beautiful, smarter, stronger, more intelligent and more light than you! And you will get rid of comparing yourself to someone little by little, the more you affect yourself and love and accept it as it is; in the end be only what you want it to be, not what they want to be, to make your unique unique copy that no one else does!