You must know what you are going after, you can't just live your life hoping you will hit something and whatever you hit you say that is what you are aiming at. You have to have a specific target in mind, most people don't succeed because they don't take the time to research about what they are going after, they ask for things they don't want and you have to be careful about the things you ask for, because you might get it. You need to be sure about what you want. So before you go after it ask God if it's yours. because if it's not yours the only reason you are going after it is because it looks good on somebody else.
Most people want everything they see somebody else wear. they buy clothes that don't look good on them, they buy houses they cant afford, they wear hairs that don't look good on them, because they are trying to keep up with somebody else.
But if u want really want to be a winner only go after things that are meant for you to have.