What was it that you clung to tightly (an ideal, a person, a stage of life) that life forced you to let go of? What was the emotional process of accepting that it was no longer part of your present?
Before now, I found it difficult to let go because I was brought up in an environment and lifestyle that seemed perfect. I was surrounded by people who became a permanent structure in my growth. There was no reason to live in isolation or fight each other. The love around was sufficient for us to live happily without necessarily hurting each other.
However, as life evolved and everybody started moving on far beyond to fend for daily endeavours. People transitioned, and everything changed immediately. Being the last in our family, I was left with my mother and father while others moved on to bigger things out there.
In that moment, everything changed, relationships evolved, patterns shifted, and circumstances overturned. I became frustrated with the sudden change and the lonely situation. That moment came with a learning process of openness and of building relationships beyond bloodlines and family.
However, in a bid to do that, I became demanding, which led to a series of offenses. I was always getting offended and not letting go. It became quite frustrating while I also struggled to regain myself and quit that lifestyle.
Life continued to evolve, leaving me with no choice but to accept change and transition to a better version of myself. The last straw that broke the camel's back was a bickering I had with my close friend. I informed my eldest sister, and she asked me to let go and move on.
Unfortunately, I allowed it to linger, and on a particular Sunday, as teens, after the service, we were spoken to, and peace was made between us. The following morning, we learnt that the girl had passed on. I cried my heart out, but was also happy that we made peace. That experience not only served its purpose in my life but also helped in reshaping me.
From that day, acceptance crept in. I began to see letting go as a bitter pill to my change and a process to my transitioning. I became softened, and the emotional weight of not letting go gradually disappeared. I adopted the tool of reflection to unwind and adjust on my daily journey in life, noting that not letting go is no longer part of my present
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