It is not surprising that experience, like hard work, acts on us in a mirror manner, reflecting itself in everything: behavior, character, habits and, even, appearance. And what would you say if you learned: a lie is an experience?
Lies ... we are starting to lie since the earliest age. In his book "The Lies, Three Ways to Identify ..." Max Fry describes the situation of a girl of three years of age who received a gift and painted joy, in fact, she was not delighted. Fry claims that our family pushes us to such actions, in particular, parents. It is likely that if the child did not respond positively, then it is likely to be pushed by the father or mother. In addition, the child always pays attention to the behavior of his parents and their reaction, so she could simply imitate the example of her parents.
Early age teaches us to tell lies to avoid punishment: an experiment was conducted during which children under the age of three were left in the room and urged not to turn to the clockwork toy behind them. After a while, the caretaker approached and asked the child if he was peeking. Despite the fact that the camera recorded as more than 90% of children turned around, only 40% said the truth. Later, the researchers decided to repeat the experiment with children of the older (five-year) age. It turned out that the older children, the less likely they are to admit they did it: no child admitted.
This process of "accustoming" the child to lie is quite logical and, as proof of this, the author points out that this is an ordinary life experience: a girl who is two years old is urged not to eat a cookie, after which her parents ask if she ate cookies, a girl says the truth, after which the parents get angry and punish her. Thus, having visited a similar situation several times a girl will learn that it would be better if she lied. Later, she will understand, sometimes the truth comes out. Therefore, the girl faces a difficult dilemma: if to tell the truth - will punish, if to lie - it, probably, can punish. Hence, it is much preferable to lie: since the child will be punished one way or another, then telling lies, it will not always be punished.