Almost 16 years ago I met Marc my significant other at a workplace. He was a boy in my eyes, although at twenty four, he considered himself to be a full grown man. I 'm fifteen years older than him, and at the time I would not have entertained the idea of anything but a work relationship.
It still baffles me to this day how he managed to convince me to hook up with him and leave the man I was with, who was older and very controlling. I packed my bags and ran one day. From that day on I was no longer controlled. It took a while to get use to it, wondering if it was real.
I find it embarrassing that I am so much older as a woman. I'm sure it's difficult for most people to understand why a younger man would be interested in a much older woman. I am guessing that in most cases the older woman is confident with a career and of course a bank full of money.
It was not the case for me. I was a low paid laborer and had no savings whatsoever. In fact he was the one with the money saved up.
Most likely in our case you would have to say that we are what people refer to as soulmates even though I am not really certain I believe that stuff, however if I did, I would offer up our relationship as an example. People find it difficult to understand how after all these years we still get along, and we have worked together in various jobs for almost all the years we've been together with the exception of two years. They wonder how we can stand working together AND living together.
They usually refer to older woman dating younger men as cougars. I suppose it means the old hag is acting like a predator and hunting down young men. I find it a little sickening if that really is the case for any of those woman. That is not me. I have respect for men young or not and would never imagine trying to prowl after someone to convince them to be my catch.
Unless I think about it, I really don't feel any different than him and I don't feel any different than I did when I was younger.
We will soon embark on another chapter of our lives together as we head to Mexico to explore this life and keep searching for the answers to why we are here.
