For many reasons, hostility, and aggression can be referred to as the two compelling siblings in our society and in interpersonal relationships..
There are many people Living with these two streak in them today and at different levels, channels and direction, but before we can totally rebuke them, maybe we need to understand what their stance are?
It goes without Saying that everything bringing about a major consequence also has its beneficial elements?, maybe thats why to some degree, society still condones tempered behavior today..
Aside from the fact that some tempered, hostile and aggressive people can appear "Cool" and Assertive, we (as a society) have to recognize, it isn't just to be tolerated..
What am i trying to say? - I'm not one of those people who would shun tempered behavior, because the instinct of being temperamental subconsciously leads one to be Passionate, dont get me wrong, it can never be in all cases, but more often than not, very passionate people will have a decided streak of hostility, thats just the way it is and maybe that's why some sects in Our society tolerates it and they could be overlooked..
For Example - Many successful footballers, across Laliga, Premier League etc, as they play, or as you follow their lives, you see this spring up very often, I guess thats why I titled my Post Hostility And Aggression because they are NOT the same thing,
but yeah, they do fall under the same bracket.
but for that livid expression of self, do you think that some insane levels of ability could be maintained? - i think society has several answers for that..
Like I said Earlier, ALL that matters with Tempered behavior are two things - How u channel it, and how you control it..
It isn't a favorable idea for anyone with a tempered personality from birth to attempt to suppress that nature, in fact it is a trait many people are lacking in and need more of (in my opinion)..
Rather the questions to be asked are, How do U channel it?:
- do u rave at things not working your way, do u attempt to cut the line in public, do you curse at people, do u try to indulge in violence, do u rebuke yourself continuously, does your temper give way to negative emotions in you?
OR
- do you feel the passion and find a source to pour it out in, do you hold ideas close in your heart until it makes you go crazy, do you attempt to do the impossible, even yet, do you attempt to go out of your way to be brave, to do what people do not expect, to show courage, fueled by your temper, attempting to go the extra mile (In Life?)..
Well, i think thats all there is to it,
And Whether one finds themselves channeling their temper positively or negatively, i think at the helm of it all, what is needed most is Control.. control of self.
Temper is a really delicate subject, that can try to consume you on both ends, so only control can create a realistic balance where it serves you, rather than making you a slave.
Control isn't a subject that can just be wished for, you must desire control and keep thinking about it, only then, would you have it. little by little.
So in conclusion, I do think that Society at Large is on a 50 / 50 page on the subject of those with temper, in certain fields it is admired and in others, unattractive... in some cases though, it can be seen as repulsive...