Temper is a normal thing for every human; we struggle with our temper at some point. What matters is how we manage our temper. When it becomes a problem, when temper becomes uncontrollable and harmful, that is when it stops being a personality because it will affect people around you.
People who have hot tempers often break trust, and harsh words many times lead to physical harm. Most times people with hot tempers always justify their actions by saying, 'You know, I get angry easily.' Here comes the big question: should that be a reason for hurting others? A bad temper can explain someone’s behaviour; it should not be an excuse. We always try not to judge people; we always tolerate their behaviour that hurts others deeply, and then they constantly insult and lash out at others all in the name of anger. That particular person should be held accountable, or they will keep hurting people around them.
People with hot tempers shouldn’t be neglected; it is necessary that you look deep and find out why they are hot-tempered. I have a sister who is so lovely and caring. Along the line she turned from a sweet soul to someone who is hot-tempered. Something made her turn to that; she is always abused in her marriage, and she always lashes at people to feel okay. Just like her case, she has unsolved pain that triggers her temper. There are also people out there who get angry because of one problem or the other, but that doesn’t justify their actions. The problem is they never learn healthy ways to control their anger because they were not enlightened on how to control their emotions. That doesn’t mean what they did was right, just that we have to understand the roots of their anger.
How can we address temper issues in our society?
We need to stop seeing temper as a normal thing; there should be a limit to our anger. It becomes bad when we insult, humiliate and disrespect people all in the name of temper. I still say it: anyone who hurts people around them when they are angry should be held accountable for the act. As someone who is hot-tempered, you should always try your best and work on yourself. Apologise when necessary other than expecting people around you to adopt or endure your behaviour.
It will be nice if the study of emotions is added to our school schedule just like English and the rest; it is very important that we should be taught on how to manage our emotions at a tender age. Believe me, there is no strength attached to anger; it only takes a mature mind to pause, think and respond calmly.
Anger is never an enemy to man; the problem is we fail to control the anger. Society should create an awareness with which they will get to understand how to control their emotions.
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