Hello community,
Sometimes, the moment this topic comes up in many conversations, you see that emotions takew the front seat before logic even has a chance to speak on it, You think about children growing up without families, and naturally, your mind jumps to one simple solution, that is to connect them with people who are ready to love them, It feels like something that should be straightforward, almost obvious… until you start to really look at how it all works.
But then again… life is not that simple.
I think the reason adoption processes are so strict is because, at the end of the day, we are talking about human lives, not just paperwork, these children have already gone through one form of instability, whether it is losing their parents, being abandoned, or even growing up without a proper family structure, so the system is trying at least in theory to make sure they do not fall into the wrong hands again.
Now imagine if everything was made very easy, like no proper checks, no deep background verification, just you want a child? Oya takes a child, It sounds nice emotionally, but realistically, it can open doors to serious problems, not everybody that wants to adopt a child is mentally, emotionally, or even financially ready to raise one, some people just like the idea of it, but the responsibility? that is a different story.
And in worse cases, some people can even have harmful intentions, that is the part people do not like to talk about, but it is real, without strict rules, you can’t properly filter who is genuine and who is not, and if a child ends up in a worse situation than the orphanage they came from, then what exactly have we achieved?
At the same time though, I won’t pretend like the system is perfect the way it is, From what we see and hear, the process can be unnecessarily long, frustrating, and sometimes even discouraging for people who genuinely want to adopt, You will see couples who are ready, stable, and willing, but because of too much bureaucracy and come back next week, energy, they just give up along the way.
And that is another problem on its own, because while the system is trying to protect children, it might also be preventing them from getting into loving homes quicker.
So for me, I don’t think the answer is to completely relax the rules, that one might do more harm than good, but I do believe the process needs to be improved, not necessarily easier, but better, more efficient, more transparent, less frustrating.
Instead of removing strict checks, maybe they should focus on making the process faster and clearer, Let people know exactly what is required from the beginning, reeduce unnecessary delays, treat applicants like human beings, not like they are begging for a favour.
Because at the end of the day, adoption is supposed to be about giving a child a better life, not making the process so stressful that only a few people can survive it.
Personally, I feel like it is about balance, You can not throw away the rules completely, but you also should not let the rules become a barrier to something good, protect the children, yes, but also support the people who are genuinely trying to give them a home.
Because if we get it right, it will not just be about more adoptions, It will be about better lives for both the children and the families that choose them and honestly, that’s the whole point.