He is always happy, smiling widely and has no worries at all. All he knows is that dad and mum are very rich. That's the thought of every child. They have nothing to bother themselves about. My son, Joel, as I affectionately call him, sleeps and wakes up at his convenience, all he cares about is for us to feed him, play with him and put him to sleep. Children really enjoy life more than adults. Adults are always in charge of all the affairs in their life. Sometimes their request sounds ridiculous but we've got to do it anyway to avoid any trouble. What a happy life they enjoy, they feel like kings and queens all the time.
They make demands from us as if we work in their already established business. Your refusal to grant their demands make them see you as an imposer.
Here comes a twist of event as they grow and realise the need to take responsibility and be responsible for their own actions. The transition from childhood to adulthood comes with different encounters and experiences. Sometimes you will hear people saying "life has not been fair to me" when things go wrong, well, that's life, it has never been fair, it doesn't give you what you wish for but what you fight for.
The reality has dawn on you
The adult life leaves you with no choice but to take care of your own self. The wonderful moment when you depended on others has passed; your difficult moment has just begun.
You are your own boss and subordinate now
Others will probably depend on you
What complicates life mostly are the people who come into our life. There is a time when the thought of getting a spouse becomes prevalent and that means an extra thinking about life. Eventually, children become part of the family. Making decisions now seems difficult because you need to consider how that decision impacts on your spouse as well your children. There are also friends who may need your company, your support, advice, and sometimes you will have no option than to ponder over matters which affect them.
Life will now treat you like an adult
You cannot stop the changes
Changes are bound to come in life. Change is inevitable in life. You will surely lose contacts with some friends as you grow, your strength will not be the same as it was when you were young, many things will not even impress you anymore, old age cannot be avoided. The best thing to do is to learn how to handle any challenge when it comes your way. Changes will really blow you out if you haven't prepare enough to meet them.
Change is inevitable in life. You can either resist it and potentially get run over by it, or you can choose to cooperate with it, adapt to it, and learn how to benefit from it. When you embrace change you will begin to see it as an opportunity for growth. Jack Canfield
Confront any challenge
We all have our own challenges and there is no need to compare yourself to others. What you are facing now maybe different from what I'm facing now. It is important to focus on what's giving you tough times by learning more about the ways to overcome them. It's important to know this: "Yourself" is the only person you should compete with and strive to become better.
Be a responsible adult
Nobody can live a life for you but only you. if you don't learn to handle your own life you will leave it in the hands of people and you may not like the end results. You can't put blames all the time for what happens to you in life. You have to take responsibility for what goes on in your life. Any bad habit that’s not profitable must be dealt with, it will rather complicate your life.
If you want to be a slave in life, then continue going around asking others to do for you. They will oblige, but you will find the price is your choices, your freedom, your life itself. They will do for you, and as a result you will be in bondage to them forever, having given your identity away for a paltry price. Then, and only then, you will be a nobody, a slave, because you yourself and nobody else made it so.”
Terry Goodkind, The Pillars of Creation
You need to learn more
Nobody has graduated yet from the school of life. We are all still learning. It feels like you are trap when things don't work in your favour. Life sometimes seems doubting and uncertain and that's why you need to learn new experiences and lessons from what you go through in life.
Sometimes it takes a good fall to really know where you stand.
Hayley Williams
Kill that bitterness
Many people have suffered and have experienced pain in life. A negative attitude in life doesn't guarantee a positive results. When your life is controlled by negative thoughts, it places limitations on how far you can go. Don’t allow your temporal wounds to permanently transform you into someone you are not. Past failures, regrets, pain can often cripple you from entering your next level in life. Always be positive; this is the kind of attitude that helps you to overcome any worse situation in life.
As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.. Nelson Mandela
Push harder
Be tougher when things get tougher in your life. Stretch to the height you ought to be. The journey of life gets easier when you are of the mindset ''I will never give up'' irrespective of the situation.
Been an adult is not an easy thing; but it comes with many other privileges. Always learn to appreciate and be grateful for the opportunity to be alive. Have this in mind: your worst moment is not permanent.
I know it's a rare privilege, but if one can really tackle something in adult life that means that much to you, then it's more rewarding than anything I can imagine. Andrew Wiles
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