As you all know, I like preparing our minds. Experiences shared and advice can never be too much as we got into this life without having a manual to guide us. We learn from other people’s experiences, personal experiences and the things we read too. We don’t have all the time in the world to make our own mistakes and learn from them and this is why we read, listen and learn from other people’s experiences.
Marriage is a lot of hard work. It is not for the faint hearted or those who just want to try things out. It is not for kids, but for matured minds and this has no bearing on age. A 30 year old can act more matured than a 40 year old. It sometimes boils down on exposure and personal development. Age doesn’t qualify anyone for marriage.
It is annoying when you ask people why they want to marry and they tell you; ”I feel I am of age to marry”. I don’t see where it has been written that once you clock 25 years of age, you are “ripe” for marriage. You might be cute but that doesn’t make you funny. You might take a vow, but that doesn’t mean you know how to love and you might be fluent in Latin language but that doesn’t mean you know how to speak. Just as fame doesn’t confer relevance, age doesn’t mean you are ready for marriage, but one thing I know is, marriage isn’t for kids.
Marriage will stretch you. It will also deny you so you will know you are no longer living for yourself but for your family. I recently came across someone who shared his thoughts. He said he saw a man at a store and he was checking the price tags and hoping to find an affordable shoe to buy. Every time he muttered under his breath; ”I can’t afford this” anytime he sees new shoe. Not long after, this man who witnessed this saw the same man in a popular shopping mall; Shoprite swiping his card to purchase goods; groceries and children items worth 170,000 naira (local currency) and reality dawned on him why the man has been saying he couldn’t afford those shoes. It wasn’t as if he doesn’t have the money to buy them, but priority sets him and he had to deny himself some basic things just to keep things going for his family; that is sacrifice. An immature person cannot do this.
…to be continued…
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.