Continued…
If you are blessed enough to have a special friend, who will do anything for you or go through any length for you, stick with them and look for ways of making them feel loved and appreciated. Also, seek ways of helping them too, reciprocate that gesture in areas that would mean so much to them.
It is not about doing tit-for-tat, but about placing appropriate value on those who mean so much to you. If what they did means a lot to you, then their person should also mean a lot to you, and how do you show that their person means a lot to you? You show it by how far you would go to make them happy too and to also let them know that you appreciate them, and you would always be readily available for them.
The language of friendship is appreciation. What you don’t appreciate, depreciates.
In friendship, you should also be willing to let things go quickly; forgive easily and don’t forget, your relationship should be the type that pushes you to be better, only then can you overlook some excesses and address it. The other party must be willing to learn and do what it takes to make it work if they actually place an appropriate value on the friendship.
Friendship requires a lot of sacrifices. This is why many people give up on some because it is one-sided and appreciation is not being given. As much as I hate people telling me “thank you”, I value it when people show appreciation by taking things about me seriously, like checking up on me if I was down, like being there. When you do these things, I take it like you appreciated me enough to be there for me, not just in saying multiples of “Thank yous.”
I stop replying when people tell me "Thank you," hahaha, or I change the topic to something that will switch your focus from it. I believe even if you must, once is enough, but then, I can injure you with “Thank you” when I say it to you. Trust me, I go to several lengths just to show my gratitude in words and in deeds.
Most people resolve to only using words of appreciation in friendship, and not in deeds. Deeds should match up with your words, only then would your friends know you mean what you say, and you say what you mean.
Look around you and examine those who matter to you, then reach out to them. Value that friendship that means so much to you, and don’t make it seem like the world revolves around you. As they have been of value to you, look for ways of becoming a value to them. Let your actions and words weigh so much that your friends would think twice about “discarding” you (letting you go). Do everything with the whole of your heart, your heart is involved too.
Thank you for your time and following through this series.
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Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.