I can not imagine I would live here like? The feeling of fear in me grew, I made arrangements to quickly grip on the country.
My name nga, 25 years old this year, was the Vietnam, new to Finland for the first time, time, atmosphere, food ... everything is completely different in Vietnam, but I quickly adapted to all. Everything is perfect for a girl to a strange place, like me, who until just a few months, I would call her husband announced to appear.
We were met at the wedding of my friend, as well as with his relatives during his visit to Vietnam to visit their homeland. Although the first meeting but apparently he and I have been, "he Silk Nguyet" se coast for the first sight. He asked for my phone number from the bride, from which we are familiar and in love. After 2 years and 7 months to learn (although only by mail, phone) but we have to realize that the time and space can not be separated from our love anymore! Love our salty enough that, dearly enough and mature enough to decide to marry.
Do you know? Like many other couples, we also face many difficulties and challenges, mainly from my family. My parents do not agree to their little girl married her only far, they say they can afford to support me to live full and happy in Vietnam, with a good husband. However, there are many times begged, threatened, and forced me to go with the more people see, but they seem to have surrendered to witness me crying, suffering, illness.
Was gutted parents agree to let me take him and we know that. So he and I promise we will live happily, happily and would often visit their home. Particularly, he has promised to give me love and happiness doubled to compensate for the love of my parents.
Engagement ceremony was solemn place not unlike wedding. They each present both sides fairly full. My family is also very satisfied because although far away but his family also attended quite crowded. However, one thing that I would like my cousin's little wonder: "Why, in this day an important future husband, my father was not there?". Although his parents are separated but at least the level of student, then his father should also witness the happiness of their children instead?
After the engagement ceremony, we flew to Finland, my aim is to get acquainted with the new environment as well as preparing for the wedding after three months. Initially I was a bit difficult to adapt to everything, so a bit difficult to remember at home, but I tried to accept the present. After a while, gradually I started to know and I like the atmosphere here. It's clean, quiet and cool, everyone in his family of mother, sister, brother they are very precious to me, so I do not feel lonely, sad and homesick anymore.
Everything seems fine, until one day, when everyone is away, I was struggling in the kitchen to cook, a man behind hugged me. I startled scream, struggling out of the man. It's a similar age his father. I fear that the foot does not run anymore, but it seems he does not want to forgive me, just playing with me like a cat and mouse so. Awful! Just then I was crying when he saw her on, she seems to have understood what was happening should immediately call him and he also has to keep up.
After this happened, I would know a terrible thing that the man was her future husband's father - whom I will call "father" after his wedding. I can not imagine his father to be the same, although I do not know anything about him, I even think that's his nature - an extremely vicious and dangerous. But his mother had somehow changed little thought in my head. She said it was not entirely due to him, but due to circumstances such was his alienation.
She says, at first, her family extremely difficult, people find a way for him to go abroad. After a period of more affluent life, he wanted her and the children that live through. But her husband's family had lied that she was going to marry another. From there he became bored, desperate to mess up the ills like alcoholism, gambling, girls gu and even drugs. Everything that has soaked into the man he was, made him like mad, like rabies.
Some time later, with the help of her family, also through Finland, but she would not stay with him and have been separated. However, he still frequented her house, tap money for snacks. She can not do anything to him, because he is also the father anyway of her sons, her husband. Moreover, his character changed completely so he can do anything dangerous if not meet his request. She also said something on his face a little bitter and ashamed that not only I, but his descendants, he was afraid of her indecent thing ...
Each time the descendants to play not dare tell him, if he knows it would have to "watch" from beginning to end he was afraid lest he do wrong. Generally, people completely metamorphosed him that he could not control. That was why in his day engagement ceremony was not present. Which is not only the engagement ceremony that our wedding could take his dare not tell him that.
As know, I started in fear. I warm memories, I mad at him, I felt like he and his family have deceived me. But there is little sympathy for her husband announced the future, but I can not imagine I would live here like? The feeling of fear in me grew, I had arranged suitcase, leaving everything to the water, but people have begged me not to do that.
He also seemed to beg me not to abandon him, he told us to seek the best deal. But in reality, all the things he made were not satisfied at all. I can not always follow him embankment embankment work, could not catch him or people at home just to watch me. He is even unable to live on their own because his mother was often sick, while he as the pillar of the family.
And I can not marry you finish that was lived in Vietnam, but in Finland I can not go to work. I do not know what to do anymore, so I can have the courage to stay and face the husband like his father. IM worry. I dare say this are his parents said, because I'm sure knowing this they will never agree to give me to marry him.
I really loved him, I did not want to leave me and my family, but I was afraid to be here. He always told me I would find a way to really happy, but I do not know how we'll do it like, while just over a month left until we will return home to the wedding.