Before you start bashing ignorant comments based on cognitive dissonance, take a moment or two to re-read the statement being made and inform yourself. A pedophile is not a child molester or a rapist. It is unfortunate but in this time and age these things have to be repeated and made clear due to high ignorance levels in all of society. Now I can continue...
I would like to make it clear now what a pedophile IS. Here is a quote from an article quoting Ray Blanchard PhD. "A pedophile is a person who has a sustained sexual orientation toward children, generally aged 13 or younger, Blanchard says. Not all pedophiles are child molesters (or vice versa). "Child molesters are defined by their acts; pedophiles are defined by their desires," Blanchard says. "Some pedophiles refrain from sexually approaching any child for their entire lives."
For those that care about what happens in this world, and truly care about children and their well-being, I have decided it is time for the human consciousness to evolve and cast aside the bigotry, stigma, taboo, and fears that revolve around a simple word. It is normal for people who have never had a need to look into a certain topic, to have no interest in that certain topic and thus it is understandable why there is still a massive amount of stigma and hate for pedophiles even though probably less than 6% of the people who use the word actually know what it means.
So now that we understand the description as made by a doctor we can actually define the word in a dictionary.
-Pedophile: A person who is sexually attracted to a child or children.
The word in and of itself does not imply anything other than what it is defining (a person with a specific sexual orientation). It really is that simple, and the worse part is that pedophiles do not choose to be pedophiles. By whatever forces of the natural or unnatural, a pedophile may often find himself realizing he or she is a pedophile at a young age. Of course, because children are not concerned with defining or labeling themselves with simple words they generally don't know they are pedophiles until they are around 12-14 years old which begs the question that should concern every parent:
"Is your child a pedophile?"
I am writing this blog because I grew up as a kid realizing I was attracted to kids much younger than myself as well as kids my own age. I was introduced to sex at a very young age by kids my age, starting at around age 7 or so I had a lover who was 9 and introduced me to sex. This became a problem as I grew older because I didn't understand it as being wrong. Sure it was kept secret and I would never tell my parents so I knew there was some taboo in it but I never fully understood why. Throughout the next 10 years my life was filled with sexual experiences with kids around my age and even many years younger. By the time I was 12 I started to question things. I still didn't believe I was doing anything wrong, but I noticed that society acted as if it was unheard of, it was unfathomable for many people. It wasn't until sex ed changed my view of sex at age 13. We were taught about all the risks involved, and told to use a condom but I could feel the entire classroom somehow containing itself from asking vital questions that were taboo. I realized that perhaps I was the only one who was sexually aware since at least age 8 and that most kids didn't even seem to care about it at least until they started hitting puberty.
This is what lead me to realize later in life that if my kids are exposed to sex at early ages, it could become a problem. For me it was a problem I wished I could change, unfortunately for many people it isn't possible. I became suicidal, anti-social, depressed and introverted. I no longer cared about what happened in life because I felt that I could never be happy as soon as I was (legally) too old. This idea hit me when I was 15, and I knew that by the time I was 18 I would have had to change. I didn't change however, although I tried very hard to change but only more suffering ensued. I was blessed enough to meet kids which healed me and brought my life back up, and I am not talking about through sex or anything of that sort. It seems that for some pedophiles part of the reason we are attracted to kids is because there is no malice, or evil in them. There is only innocence. Though this may sound immature it is also why I never wanted to be a part of the adult society as an adult. Truthfully there is much that can be learned from kids and their innocence so I am sharing my opinions as an experienced pedophile who has never abused, hurt, molested any child in any way shape or form. That isn't to say all pedophiles are the same, of course there are those who might not contain themselves, who have been abused and think it is ok to abuse kids but that doesn't mean we should stereotype all pedophiles into one category. I have met many pedophiles online who are often the most kindest and innocent people I have met. I think if we are concerned about avoiding child sex abuse, molestation, and violence we really need to think from the next dimension and attack the root cause of it. I believe the main cause for all violence is a lack of love. Love and Hate are of the same energy albeit polar extremes. Like cold and heat, there is never an absence of both, there is only higher grades of one or the other. The more we are filled with hate, the less able we are to love or the lesser the quality of our love. The more we are filled with love, the less able we are to hate. It should be clear to us all now how much love we are lacking in this world. We need not go further than to observe all the wars, the violence we see on TV and movies, the compartmentalization of ideas and freedoms within different cultures, different laws, different religions. Poverty is probably another much bigger contributor to violence but my point is that this world is in dire need of change and I mean REAL change. If your child was a pedophile would you still think the way you think right now about pedophiles? Will you unconditionally love people and treat them as humans, or realize we all need to grow spiritually NOT without love and definitely not by hating others. Remember that by hating others your quality of love degrades, and you will only enable further hate. Let us be the example we want to see and change the world from within.
For any pedophile reading this, remember that in the end it is love you seek and remember this quote:
"If you love a flower, don't pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession." -Osho
For all others out there, I will add an excerpt from an article which I will include links to at the end of this blog.
What would you want people to know about the stereotypes about pedophiles?
"People do not choose to be attracted to children or adults any more than they choose to be attracted to males or females," Blanchard says. "If there is any choice in the situation, it is in how pedophiles manage their lives once they become fully aware of the direction of their sexual interests and the societal prohibitions against expressing them."
I would also like to make it clear, that I fully understand that there are pedophile rings around the globe, and all sorts of problems concerning child abuse by organized criminals. Because I love children I do truly wish that these types of evil people did not exist. Not only do they create the worse possible example of a pedophile or even of a human being, but they really are soulless enough to deserve death. I do not identify myself with them because I have heard many testimonies where children are drugged or given drinks in order to abuse them. This is the easiest way for a pedophile to fulfill his desires and I believe it is wrong, the right path is never an easy one and requires the destruction of ones own ego and the conquering of their own mind, heart, and temptations.
I write this blog knowing I will get many hate comments and flags, but hoping that since it is a social network backed by the blockchain that at least free speech will strive and people may learn to understand and respect free speech.
Love and Peace to all!
http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/explaining-pedophilia?page=2