If you are like almost all parents who interact directly with the child in the morning. And have to make sure that the child goes to school or even drops her off to school.
Surely you often experience the child began lazing to go to school or worse still he refused or strike the school.
How to Respond
If your child is beginning to have signs or overtly addressing his or her disinterest in school, most parents will force the child by scolding and punishing him, or giving him a leniency and letting the child go to school.
Be careful, either forcing or allowing it to be both 'master weapons' for yourself and of course for the growth and development of children.
By forcing and punishing children to go to school (or to do other things), you will only create a 'battleground' where you and your child will fight each other to become winners. And the name 'war' will certainly take many victims on both sides.
Compared to anger, nagging the negative aura and make everyone involved is also dragged negative currents. You will only be squeezed out by the circumstances, draining energy, sweat and tears and in fact you just dwell on the spot without producing anything.
Wait a minute if you think otherwise, hoping that letting it work at will will make it better.
The result is not much better but maybe even worse. The child will most likely again repeat the action of 'school strike' and may become increasingly becoming. If you continue it may turn into an upside. You are supposed to be a control, a coach, a child guide, just be subject to the wishes of the child.
Make your child cooperative rather than forced or at will.
Try to step back, put aside anger and panic, focus on responsibility and finding solutions.How to solve it
1.Find the root of the problem
You can not solve the problem without knowing what the problem really is, what causes it. Usually a school strike boy is actually a child's inability to solve his problem at school so he tries to avoid it. There are some problems children may encounter such as.
Difficulty in associating
Not all children easily adjust themselves in new environments. Some children take longer than others to mingle. This situation may make him feel uncomfortable in the school environment.
Bullying
Usually this is an extension of the effect of children who have difficulty mingling. Make it look different from other kids. The state of 'minority' makes other children feel safe and oppressive. Bullying is often the main problem children do not want to go to school.
Environment / association
Your child has no problem in getting along and adjusting? It could be the surrounding environment (friends) who bring it into this problem. Cases like this usually happen to a teenager (junior / high school) who may be leaving in the morning but never in class.
Academic
Competition is tight where every child is required to excel and get a very good value. This may make the child feel burdened and make him think too hard so he tries to run away from the problem.
Rules
Sometimes some children have problems in the system that he thinks is too tight. He may struggle, feel inadequate and refuse to submit to the rules.
Lack of confidence
Children with low self-esteem are more likely to avoid social interactions like in school.
Bored
Children get bored easily. She may be bored with the teaching patterns at school, the less-varied activities at school, with social patterns in school or she's just bored with the daily routine.
Allocate the time to talk to him to dig deep root problems. Ask questions that guide children to tell stories. Avoid easily answered questions like "yes", "no", "have", "not yet" and the like.
2. Support with positive aura
Be sensitive to the child's progress, let him know that you can see what he is trying to achieve. Give a little praise to trigger it better. And make sure you're there and reward him as he slowly approaches your goals. Do not forget to show affection for children.
"Let's tomorrow our weekend to the beach, you've learned to continue in school. Let your brain fresh again while studying again at school. "
It does not have to be bothered there are many ways to show affection through simple things.
Make sure he knows he will get those awards if he comply and try to achieve your goals.
"If this month you go to school continue later Papa buy pirate adventure comic book in space you know!"
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3.Give motivation
Get him up to solve the problem. Give the child a reason to keep trying his best.
The easiest way is to invite him to watch biographical films. Or most often most parents do, telling their experiences.
"Mama used to go to school should go far. But Mama still the spirit of learning. In fact, Mama is often the champion of the class. "
It is advisable to avoid comparing children with 'your standards'
4.Find Solutions From Various Directions
Approach the teacher so you can discuss the problem of the child at school. Be familiar with the parents of children's friends. Think of your teacher, school staff, and parents as your teammates.
Just because the issue is related to and housed in school does not mean you have to sit still and let the teacher handle it by yourself. So talk to the teacher and work as a team to plan solutions at home and at school. When you feel confused about what to do, teachers often have effective ideas that you can try. Do not be afraid to ask for guidance. The teacher may also refer you to the School Counseling Guidance Teacher for additional ideas and support.
Sharing experiences with fellow parents can also be a great solution. Believe other parents may have a surprising solution. You can also work together to arrange more effective plans such as organizing activities after school with friends and parents. Or get the kids to go to school together.
5.Start from now and move on
Change is not an overnight process. Your child will most likely not be completely immune to school. Start where your child is now, and gradually increase your expectations from time to time until you reach your target. Be patient and continue to monitor your child. Talk to the child as often as possible to see if there is progress, and keep exploring new ideas to try if necessary.
6. No harm in asking for help
If you start to encounter some of the behaviors of a child who are getting over and the child does not respond to your strategy after a week or two, it's time to seek help. You can contact a therapist or Counseling Teacher at a children's school.
Always contact the school when the child does not leave. Tell the real reason your child did not go to school.
Some parents try to secure their children from punishment by saying their child is sick or for other reasons and supporting child truancy. Which makes the school feel there is no problem and let you distress yourself.
Do not be afraid to notify your child's situation on the part of the school. This way you at least address the positive attitude and become an active and well-meaning parent. So the school understands what you are going through. And a good school will definitely help the students.
7.Do not forget the existing rules
Also learn what the child school rules are like. For example some schools impose certain penalties such as not going to class or even being issued to children who skip school. So you can immediately and can create limits for the child. Do not let you be late for action.
Child problems are not simple problems. Sometimes you will have a hard time solving it yourself. It would be much better if you shared the environment to form a 'atmosphere' that is good for your child's growth and certainly the other children.
