Greetings my dear readers, today I want to talk about an experience that worries me a lot; I tell you that yesterday Sunday I attended with my family to a sharing to welcome my son Matthiias' Fire Brigade vacations, for which the brigade commander proposed to make a sharing in the pool, an idea that we parents supported, each one gave a contribution for the rental of the pool and we brought snacks, candy, soft drinks, rice, hot dogs and other foods to share with the brigade and families; I was also very excited because it is the first time I would take my children to a swimming pool, in the area where we live we are more of a river or natural spa people.
Les cuento que Matthiias estaba muy entusiasmado con esta idea, contaba los días para ir a la piscina, aunque en ocasiones me decía que tenia miedo de ahogarse, le dije que no se preocupara porque tendría puesto su salvavidas, estaríamos con el en todo momento y aparte la piscina estaba dividida en 2 partes, la de los niños y la de adultos, esto ultimo lo tranquilizo al ver la pared que divide la piscina, evitando que los mas pequeños se vayan a la parte mas honda.
I tell you that Matthias was very excited about this idea, he counted the days to go to the pool, although sometimes he told me that he was afraid of drowning, I told him not to worry because he would have his life jacket on, we would be with him at all times and besides the pool was divided into 2 parts, the children's and adults, the latter reassured him to see the wall that divides the pool, preventing the little ones to go to the deepest part.
Al llegar inmediatamente se cambio de ropa, me dijo que se daría un chapuzón, el esta en la brigada con su primo Francisco y se cambiaron de ropa, al meterse su cara cambio totalmente, comenzó a llorar que lo sacáramos de allí y de verdad que el susto no era normal, temblaba del miedo; mi esposa y yo estábamos con el, le preguntamos que pasaba y dijo que tenia mucho miedo, en ese momento decidimos sacarlo, dejarlo tranquilo y darle su espacio para que se tranquilizara.
When he arrived he immediately changed his clothes, he told me that he would take a dip, he is in the brigade with his cousin Francisco and they changed clothes, when he got in his face changed completely, he began to cry for us to take him out of there and he was really scared, he was shaking with fear; my wife and I were with him, we asked him what was wrong and he said he was very scared, at that moment we decided to take him out, leave him alone and give him his space to calm down.
Al pasar un buen rato, fui a preguntarle si quería hacer el intento nuevamente, pero su cara de miedo y preocupación volvía al instante, converse con el, sus amigos le decían que no pasaría nada, que no estaba honda, que ellos eran mas pequeños y no los tapaba, pero no entendía razones, se negaba a meterse, lo máximo que logre que hiciera fue sentarse a la orilla y meter los pies al agua; desde allí jugaba con sus compañeros a mojarlos pero por mas emocionado que estuviera no hubo forma alguna de convencerlo a entrar.
After a while, I went to ask him if he wanted to try again, but his face of fear and concern returned instantly, I talked to him, his friends told him that nothing would happen, that it was not deep, that they were smaller and did not cover them, but he did not understand reasons, he refused to get in, the most I could get him to do was to sit on the shore and put his feet in the water; from there he played with his friends to get them wet but no matter how excited he was there was no way to convince him to enter.
Al ver la fobia tan grande que tenia a meterse a la piscina, decidimos dejarlo disfrutar a su estilo, corría con sus amigos por la orilla de la piscina, y de allí también jugaba a la pelota con los que se estaban bañando, los que estaban dentro lo mojaban, el se acercaba y también lanzaba agua; mientras esto sucedía me senté a conversar con mi esposa, allí ella me dice que ese miedo es muy extraño y recordó un mal episodio que sucedió cuando ella estaba embarazada de Matthias, les cuento: nos encontrábamos en una reunión familiar y uno de sus sobrinos se ahogo en la piscina, yo fui quien lo saco e inmediatamente comencé a dar los primeros auxilios junto a mi cuñada (quien también es médico) y un primo de mi esposa que es bombero, fue mucho el tiempo en que practicamos la respiración boca a boca, les confieso que por un instante pensé que el niño no despertaría, pero gracias a Dios y a la rápida asistencia logramos que reaccionara; esto fue algo que agobió mucho a mi esposa y de allí ella siente cierto temor por las piscinas, puede ser que allá trasmitido ese momento de angustia al feto.
When we saw how phobic he was about getting into the pool, we decided to let him enjoy his own way, he ran with his friends along the edge of the pool, and from there he also played ball with those who were bathing, those who were in the pool got him wet, he approached and also threw water; while this was happening I sat down to talk with my wife, there she told me that this fear is very strange and remembered a bad episode that happened when she was pregnant with Matthias, I tell you: we were at a family reunion and one of her nephews drowned in the pool, I was the one who pulled him out and immediately began to give first aid with my sister-in-law (who is also a doctor) and a cousin of my wife who is a firefighter, it was a long time that we practiced mouth to mouth breathing, I confess that for a moment I thought the child would not wake up, but thanks to God and the quick assistance we managed to get him to react; This was something that overwhelmed my wife a lot and from there she feels a certain fear for the pools, maybe she transmitted that moment of anguish to the fetus.
A pesar de este mal rato, la pasamos muy bien y lo que mas me extraño fue que Matthias me dijo que se había divertido mucho, que cuando este mas grande y este seguro de no ahogarse el se meterá de nuevo, que aun no esta preparado; pienso dejarlo un tiempo sin hablar del tema, pero el fin de semana menos esperado invitare a mi familia a una piscinada y espero lograr ayudar a mi hijo, es muy importante que sepa nadar, porque esto le hará falta para cuando este mas grande. Le comente a mi esposa que debemos venir en otra ocasión con nuestro hijo a bañarnos junto a el, para ver si de esta forma se siente mas seguro y logramos que venza su miedo, o mejor dicho su fobia.
In spite of this bad time, we had a great time and what surprised me the most was that Matthias told me that he had a lot of fun, that when he is older and he is sure that he will not drown he will go in again, he is not ready yet; I will leave him for a while without talking about it, but the least expected weekend I will invite my family to a pool party and I hope to help my son, it is very important that he knows how to swim, because this will be necessary for him when he is older. I told my wife that we should come another time with our son to swim with him, to see if this way he feels safer and we can overcome his fear, or rather his phobia.
Ya cuando casi nos veníamos, decidí tomarme con mi esposa 3 cervezas para olvidar un poco el mal rato y refrescarnos, porque les confieso que el calor era muy grande y no quisimos bañarnos ya que este era un compartir de niños y mi pequeño Juan Andrés tiene un poco de gripe, le haría mucho daño meterse en la piscina, pero sin embargo el también disfruto mucho, ya que le llevamos una pelota y se encontraba jugando por todas partes y otras veces solo se sentaba a ver a los niños bañándose.
When we were almost leaving, I decided to have 3 beers with my wife to forget the bad time and refresh ourselves, because I confess that it was very hot and we did not want to swim because this was a children's pool and my little Juan Andres has a little flu, it would hurt him a lot to get into the pool, but nevertheless he also enjoyed a lot, because we took him a ball and he was playing everywhere and other times he just sat and watched the children bathing.
Para todos los padres es preocupante descubrir que su hijo tiene una fobia tan grande, pero ahora queda ayudar a mi hijo y apoyarlo para poder acabar con ella, por mi parte hare lo necesario y lo que este en mis manos para logarlo; gracias a todos por leerme, se despide su amigo el Drhueso.
For all parents it is worrying to discover that their child has such a big phobia, but now it remains to help my son and support him to be able to end it, for my part I will do what is necessary and what is in my hands to achieve it; thanks to all for reading me, your friend Drhueso says goodbye.
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