For you to be found and loved as a leader, you must really define the stand between being a leader and one who so desperately desires to lead.
"Leadership is work and it is very hard to find that person that leads for real and not he who craves to lead because he thinks he has to".
Be that person who stands by those in need, instead of the one who needs to be stood by or pitied;
Be that person willing to give love no matter how minimal, than the one that seeks love.
In life, we are that other person either in the positive or negative, and doing our best makes count for what our lives will turn out to be for us and for those around us.
Leadership in a man is craved by the people who seek to be led and not self appointed.
Remember that you cannot move people to action unless you first move them with emotion, because... the heart does come before the head. So be loving as best as you can and go with the flow.