I have a friend of mine who has really been battling about this, both parent went part ways and she's been living and supporting her dad since then, Dad has not remarried and she's been the one doing most things for him, however something tragic happened and it has really taken a toll on her, especially her academic life, one time I spoke with her about her Wellbeing and what happened, she told me how her dad said some really awful things about her, making her feel so bad and demure, none of which was her fault, all those wrong and hurtful words often breed low self-esteem, depression, anxiety and curiosity in a person, now imagine the effect of these in her academics, how can she concentrate and bring herself to grab all this and still be able to study effectively and get good grades and result at the end.
You see this have a greater effect on the female child, because by the time the help and necessary support are not coming forth they bend towards any available alternative, doing all sort of awful things to survive, like my friend, parents are entranged and the only father who she's hold onto now has abandon her, in her second her in uni, what's up for her now, if she falls into the wrong hands, the society will find a way to judge her for it.
Especially in Africa the rate of child trafficking, slavery and prostitution is still on the high cause most parents divorcing abandoning their responsibility to these children leaving most of them to fend for themselves, and it's really devastating to bare.
Another of my female friend who's parents are divorced finds it so hard to strike a balance between both worlds, while she's currently doing menial job to survive her mom most times makes it burdensome on her demanding asking her to come over and help her, on the other hand the father is down and most times Calls on her to come an assist him, here she is trying to earn a living by working a full-time job, the hardest part of all these is that non of these separated parents understand what she's trying to do at all, making it more difficult.
Most times when couple decide to end it all, they really do not come to consider the feeling and aftermath of their decision on their children or child, it's often about their own freedom and happiness, however when you look at the long-term effects of these it's so devastating on their children, it's makea them mentally unstable, derailed, unable to stay focus and concentrate, I understand this cause even i come from such background, it's really not easy.
CONCLUSION
The rate at which divorces rate is rising calls for concern, I feel there should be a law or something to place all these in check, if there are children, divorce should be allowed atleast when the children are grown up, I know every human have their own rights to do as they wish and to express that fundamental human right but there should be checks and balances out in place especially when whatever DECISON will have some adverse effect on a child or children's life.
