It is important to know how to set boundaries, and a great deal of power is also hidden in the ability to receive life with the whole heart!
Have you ever noticed how children's eyes light up when they hear the answer yes? When they get the desired ice cream, they can hold a cat or they can stay overnight with their best friend. For children, every approval is a pleasure that provides for joy and freedom and enriches everyday life.
It is clear that from time to time they also need to hear a clear no. Without this word, children turn into tyrants - or even endanger themselves.
On the principle of childhood education, we can live our whole life. But as adults, we must draw the boundaries to protect ourselves. It is important to know how to say no - especially women because we are inclined to make everyone happy. But still - too much shaking with the head is also bad for us.
This limits us and isolates us from others in the long run - ultimately even from our own feelings. Only if you accept other people, intense experiences, feelings, and love with conviction and courage you will you be able to feel new experiences. The word is a source for a whole bunch of power, fun, and joy to live. A source that can be rediscovered at just about every age!
I managed to make a list of 10 moments in which it is worthwhile to just nod the head and say with all your heart:
1: Everyday enjoyment
It wouldn't be healthy to celebrate and have fun all the time. But every day, you can afford one small little bit, such as an ice cream cup, and simply enjoy it.
2: Chill time
There is always something to be done at home, we all have obligations and we all want to experience something new. It also feels good if we can be a little lazy. Our own laziness, the inner need for peace and the desire to waste time, is also yes to ourself. This is the answer that we don't have to always do only useful and smart stuff.
3: Tests of courage
First, you need to protect yourself from overloading. Anyone who never risks and conceals himself as a shield for every excitement stops developing and doesn't even have the opportunity to be proud of himself. So, why you just try to have a speech or test yourself on a climbing wall?
4: Friendly people
On the train, you can deepen into your book, on the playground, you can stay far away from the rest of the moms, or you can simply avoid the invitations of unknown men throughout your life. With this kind of behavior, you basically discourage all those people and thus get deprived of pleasant meetings and new insights.
5: Life is Beautiful!
To get to know this, you need significantly less than you think. You will feel it already if you look at yourself for a moment or watch the child play. You can grab the green meadows with your eyes or watch the butterflies. Know that the external environment affects the inner attitudes towards life. You can greet him with a little more attention to small details, such as a well-equipped home ...
6: Clear decisions
You will be pleased if you can take the time to make decisions and listen to yourself. Why do I think I have to reject this inquiry, offer or invitation? What's scary about it? Did I get too involved in the routine? Or, by rejecting, I just set important borders? When you answer all these questions, you will see that it is better to say yes more often - and in doing so unleash a whole bunch of energy.
7: New situations
Exhibition of modern art, concert, exotic feast - when you try something new, you will also feel the versatility of life. Or you will have at least something to laugh at...
8: Good deeds
One of the most reliable ways to make yourself happy is to help others - at least I know I do. Of course, this doesn't mean that you have to sacrifice, but if you are ready to help others, you will have a good feeling - and that on both sides.
9: Great emotions
Some people are cheating and marriages can be lost. However, don't doubt or lock your heart. When you begin a relationship, you indulge in it and love it as if it were for you the first time: passionate, with every fiber and with no solid ground under your feet.
And finally - 10: Difficult moments
"Yes, my child has a problem at school." Or, "Yes, we have problems in the marriage." So you will admit that you are taking life as it is. Only if you acknowledge that you have problems, you will also be able to solve them and become happy again.