But really, your relationship only gets better when you let go of the idea of "that special one." True love is rather a beautiful fairy tale than reality. I know that sounds pretty loud, but not panic. Life is much better if you let go of the idea of one perfect True.
Does True Love exist?
Experts agree that not one True Love is made especially for you. According to dating coach Tim Venema, you do not fall in love with someone just once in your life, but different circumstances prevent you from doing so. For example, if you think you have found the True one, you will fall in love with someone else less quickly because you will then (unwittingly) close yourself off.
Time does not work in your favor either. According to psychologist and therapist Marcelino Lopez, we as humans are too subject to change to have the same Ware forever. When I was 18, I thought I found the True. He was not only my great love but also my best friend. Until I went to study in another city and went to rooms. My life changed completely, while he stayed in the same. At one point I had changed so much that he was no longer the Ware for me, and the other way around was probably the same.
It only makes it more difficult
This does not sound like a walk in the park, of course, but it is very liberating not to believe in De Ware. Therapist Marcelino Lopez writes that he often sees couples in his therapy room who believe in De Ware with full conviction. And this only made their relationship more difficult. Both partners soon after a (small) quarrel daydreams about an ideal partner, and then things go wrong. "A soul mate would still feel that I want ice cream and do not feel like talking about cars," says the therapist. You are already wondering (too much) quickly whether you are not with the wrong person. In short: you always compare your friend with a perfect "soul mate," chances are you are never thrilled.
Conclusion
According to dating coach Tim Veninga, believing in a soul mate makes your life even more complicated. If your True Love has a different one and you keep waiting for them to leave each other, you ruin your chance of happiness. That's how it is. It sounds a bit hard to say that the True Love does not exist,