Let's understand the concept of a dysfunctional family.
A dysfunctional family is one whose members do not adequately fulfill their roles; and then, they do not feel fulfilled as individuals or as a group, not transferring to the new members, the positive values for their valuable social insertion. They are families where the parents do not take care of their children, abuse them physically and / or morally, there is no dialogue and yes the conflict without resolution, misunderstanding predominates, the children do not respect their parents and vice versa, there are no limits, etc.
It is not easy, in any way, to grow up in a place where members of a family are physically or mentally mistreated. It is not easy for a child to grow up, to develop his personality, his self-esteem, to recognize what his identity is and what the true value of love is; When all you've seen over the years are fights, insults, where incomprehension abounds, lack of attention, lack of affection, where you are light for the outside and darkness for the inside.
It hurts the heart, when you start to live in this environment, many are sadly accustomed to live in this way, between lawsuits, insults and threats of divorce everywhere, many others learn to cope, others never survive having lived such a devastating experience , which are like open wounds throughout your body that never stop bleeding.
Lack of identity, low self-esteem, false concept of love, are some of the problems that have to be dealt with when dealing with people who have left dysfunctional homes and seek professional help, the biggest of them is depression, most feel that they have abandoned them, no one loved them, never cared about their well-being, many others tried to take their own lives, fortunately they could not and finally those little people who did not endure the suffering and took their lives thinking that they would put an end to their suffering. Regrettably, multiple factors are accused and the family environment is almost never seen in order to understand why there are so many people who simply feel isolated from society, as if they do not fit into any group, all because they have never had confidence in themselves.
No one who has not lived in a dysfunctional home, could give living testimony, that it is devastating, sometimes insurmountable, it is disconcerting, it is simply agonizing to live like this, many children are victims of pedophilia because their family environment exposed them, and nobody says or do something about it.
Many times you need to hear a I love you, I need you, you are important, you can, I am with you, many times we need with all our strength a hug from dad or mom, to tell us how proud they are of us.
Fortunately, we have a good and loving God who is our Father. Let us look at Him, focus our eyes on Him, the only way to heal those wounds is to be healed with the love that only He can give us, the only way that the pain goes away is immerse ourselves completely in the river of their love, in their springs of life.