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The belief that, because a person supports another's opinion on a particular issue means that such a person supports every other opinion offered by the other, in my opinion amounts to intellectual laziness.
Polarity isn't a constant in life. Supporting or opposing anyone is not absolute. I can agree or disagree with any side, at any time, to any extent my own judgement allows.
It is pertinent to learn that we can agree with people on certain issues and disagree with them on other views. Gaining respect and support should not be based on resonating same beliefs.
We should not drag people when they don't resonate our views.
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This rigidity is harmful.
It is silly to support a person's views not because you see the merit but because they have gained your loyalty.
Rubbishing the things another says just because you disagree with one point also amounts to silliness.
Be objective.
Take for example...
I support Chimamanda on a lot of levels. I think "we should all be feminists", that gender roles are crippling and girls should be allowed to be ambitious as boys.
I think patriarchy is medieval.
Notwithstanding, I disagree with Chimamanda on other beliefs.
I think feminism becomes ineffective and chaotic in operation when it employs various levels of "should".
The only "should" I am in support of is women "should" be free to be whatever they want without discrimination.
Yeah, a CEO, a housewife, whatever she decides to want she should go after it.
It is contradictory to shame her over what she chooses to be, of her own free will, because, in your own opinion, it is not independent or ambitious enough in the name of feminism. You are missing the point.
I've seen "feminists" denying other women their freedom. You're fighting a problem and creating a similar one.
A person who out of her own reasoning decides to be a full time house wife totally has the right. She should go for it if she wants it.
Marriage is a social contract, entered freely by consenting adults.
It's really people's business what they do in their marriages. They make their rules and should be allowed to by the set of rules guided by understanding.
It is offensively intrusive for "feminists" to "instruct" wives on how to relate with their husbands.
Mind your business. Thank you.