Dear steemians,

I would like to talk to you about a subject that is particularly close to my heart: self-confidence.
I notice that lack of self-confidence is a fairly common problem in our society. We live in an era where the image is a priority. The judgment of others on our own person has become a source of anxiety. What does he think of me? Am I in fashion? What photo of me will I put on social networks today? Is the new girlfriend of my ex is prettier than me? ...

All these torments, which are fueled and reinforced by some social networks, are in fact generating stress and can increase a lack of self-confidence. We compare ourselves with others, we play roles against others and the risk is not really knowing who we are. However, self-confidence is a fundamental need to be at peace with oneself and to move forward in life as serenely as possible.

So today I propose some tips to increase your confidence in you my dear steemians.
Steemit is a social platform that allows us to exchange ideas and information. I like being able to use this to boost and help others in my way. Of course, there are many other ways, so feel free to comment and share your ideas on the subject, my friends!

🔝👍 4 TIPS to Boost your Self-Confidence

💗 Become aware of your Value

You are unique and you have a lot of courage! If someone tells you otherwise, do not listen to him and continue your life, your road, your dreams ...

To stop thinking negatively also depends on the choice you make of the people around you. Unfortunately, there are toxic people who will meet you throughout your life. But if you are confident enough and at peace with yourself, you naturally have the right choices.
Making these choices is also respecting oneself and respecting one's own limits. If you want to help others, you have to help yourself first!

If you are interested in this topic, I invite you to read this:
My first resolution 2018 : Stop negative thinking! 1/2 ;
My first resolution 2018 : Stop negative thinking! 2/2

💗 Master your Internal Dialogue

Your inner dialogue is determined by your thoughts and if you think positively, it improves. But if you get overwhelmed by negative thoughts, your inner dialogue will become negative and will have consequences on the quality of your life.

This is the hardest part for me because we are constantly exposed to negative thinking.
Simply, turn on the tv during the news. After 5 minutes, you want to buy Xanax! 😅
Personally, since I no longer watch TV I'm much better! ^^

That's why it's important to choose the things you want to watch and the people you want to see.
And yes, life is a matter of choice and sometimes it is enough to change a few habits and it goes immediately better!
If you are interested in this topic, I invite you to read the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life" by Mark Manson*

💗 Distance yourself

Sometimes we tend to focus on details or situations but is it really necessary?
Whatever happens, the past can not be changed so it is better to focus your energy on the present moment. I noticed that when I feel stressed or feel bad, it is because I am in the past in the future but not in the present moment.
It is not easy to be always in the present moment, that's why I'm doing meditation since last summer.

Meditation is one of the first and most fundamental steps in mastering our internal dialogue. We typically have anywhere between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts each day and quieting our turbulent mental environment creates the blank canvas upon which to paint a positive internal conversation. When the mind is still it becomes a fertile field that is receptive to the seeds we plant there. source

This practice helps me to feel much better and more able to manage my emotions and therefore my stress.
Moving away from our negative thoughts, immaterial things or people doing a good job! try, you will see :).
If you are interested in this topic, I invite you to read "The power of now" by Eckhart Tolle.

💗 Set goals and self-evaluate

We are not all equal in our confidence in ourselves, but we are masters of our lives, right?
Take action to regain self-confidence is essential! It will not be easy, but necessary to improve the quality of your life. Do not panic, just go in stages. Start small daily challenges and do not forget to cultivate gratitude!

Gratitude is a powerful mental state that causes a palpable transformation in our internal landscape. When we put our attention on those things we can be grateful for, it automatically shifts us out of a negative mentality. Just by simply repeating the statement, I am so grateful for _____, we create positive momentum in our internal dialogue. Focusing on what’s good or uplifting in your life also conditions you to stay vigilant in looking for more of the same gratitude-worthy experiences to come into your life—or as the saying goes, where attention goes, energy flows. source

Become aware of your strengths and use them. Put your skills to work and be proud of what you are doing!

The important thing to progress is to set priorities and define your goals for your day, your year, your life ...
Do not be overwhelmed by the priorities of others! Have your own priorities and stay focused on your goals without considering the opinion of everyone.
You will not be rejected if you do this, on the contrary, you will be respected because others will see in you a person who knows where she is going in life.
If you are not used to doing this kind of action, people around you will be surprised by this small change but do not worry, it will get used to it ^^. Don´t be afraid of being rejected by others because we change and we evolve positively.

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