Apologies mean nothing... But Actions mean everything
Hello Steemians, blessed day, I greet you
. I just want to remind you that each blog is a challenge for you and me, even if it does not seem like it; because the purpose of this is that we can learn together and improve each day.
If someone apologizes for treating you badly and a minute later comes back to treat you in exactly the same way, that was not an apology, it was an excuse.
That apology was only part of his mental game, real maturity means recognizing your shortcomings and striving to correct them.
It's easy for someone to say, I love you, I'm sorry, it'll never happen again.
But it's much harder for someone to change their behavior, work to undo their toxic habits and finally treat you as they deserve.
Do not blame yourself, do not blame yourself for the behavior of someone who does not mind hurting you. The only fault you have, is to have a bigger heart than the empty words and the lies that you have been given.
It is common for manipulators to play safely, shortly after making a mistake they will start talking sweet again, they will start to dedicate more time, they will create the illusion that they are changing for the better.
And then when you let your guard down, they'll make a charge for you again. We all know that there are no perfect people for that reason they are going to make some mistakes in any relationship.
But the difference between a toxic person and a person with good intentions, are the concrete steps of action that one of those people if you are willing to take to improve the situation.
There are some people who will apologize to you because they know that this is what you want to hear, but in itself, it is not an apology that they are trying to offer you, it is simply their subtle way of saying: "Leave me alone"
In the moment the tears that this person shed may have been real, but that does not mean that they are going to turn around and start treating you better.
At least not for long.
Apologies mean nothing. Actions mean everything
You should only accept an apology if you really believe that the other person is going to work on himself and keep his promise not to make the same mistake again.
I'm not talking about being against forgiveness, Christ himself said: "I forgive you, go and do not sin anymore"
But those people, instead of going to sin more, go and sin worse.
It does not matter how many times they swear that this time they will be different. Remember:
Apologies mean nothing. Actions mean everything.
Jesus Christ in his word told us to be careful not only to be hearers, but doers
And it's not just talking about nice, but about live what we talk. If someone truly loves you and has a willing heart to change, your desire will then be to correct your misbehavior.
You can not bear to see yourself in pain, hurting you only once will be more than enough.
Words mean nothing, when your actions do not show it
You will meet people who will always use the correct words for each situation, but in the end it will always be their actions that will tell you who they really are.