Some couples of hours ago, after composing a long message that I planned to send to one of my contacts who offended me. I chose my words very carefully even though they were sharp and blunt. But as I was about to press the send button, I paused for a bit, pressed back, and dropped my phone as I pressed play on my headphones to continue listening to the music I was playing because I just realized that if I keep silent, it speaks louder than the message I already composed and wanted to send.
I have learned a lot from some people and how there is power in silence sometimes because it is not every battle that requires noise. Over here in my country, a lot of people are not so disciplined enough because they think that they need to shout before they can be seen or heard. On the bus, drivers shout at the passengers; in the market, everyone shouts. Most people have this notion that if you don't talk or keep silent, it is either because you are guilty or a weak person. Some time ago, I believed in that too, so I made arguments and overexplained myself just to prove my point and defend myself, and to be honest, that really, really was so draining and exhausting at the same point.
But growing up, reading books, and listening to some real-life discussions, I have learned a great deal from it. No matter how I explain or put it, I just discover that some people will still not get it or understand. Some arguments are not based on what is the truth but just to show ego and how good their English is. I have seen friendships, relationships, and even marriages fall and break apart just because both partners refuse to cool down for each other; they keep exchanging words. I have seen businesses and good things crumble because of little misunderstandings that could have been easily resolved if they were not waiting for who will say the last word.
Because most times, I choose to stay silent, it doesn't mean I don't have anything to say. Most times I just want peace to reign more than me trying to win always. I am human too, God is still working on me, and that is why sometimes, my reflex takes the best of me, which I sometimes wish I didn't respond to. There are some points I realized that I shouldn't have reacted and just allowed nature to do its thing.
Life has taught me to be silent sometimes, and I have also learned how to always exercise patience from that. It has taught me how to manage my emotions rather than reacting to everything that I might later regret, and that is why I am now mature enough to know that I do not need to respond or speak to everything because it is just best to live some.
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