Being single for the longest time I have couple of suggestions to go through this day devoid of alcohol and tissues.
I count on the company of friends to last through this day where being single sounds like a curse.
So how do single girls avoid being envious of others as they recieve those expensive bouquets and yummy chocolates? Well in my case, I went on a series of self pampering ranging from sauna, massage, pig out, and shopping. Superficial you may argue but honestly what good is there punishing yourself for situations beyond ones control?
Love I would agree is the most powerful energy in this world. Imagine what the world can be like if we just love irregardless of age, sex, creed and social status?There won't be need for nukes or territorial borders I suppose and the perennial problem of poverty would have been eradicated like polio .Yet sadly, while most people are excited to go out on dates with their loved ones many suffer many injustice physical, emotional, spiritual etc.
So in an effort not to feel ugly I focus on the blessings I am endowed with and the perks of being single like freedom to spend ones time as one wish. Commitment free I have all the opportunity there is to pursue my passions and date anyone.
Honestly ,as much as there is stigma to insanity sometimes I think it's a bliss and as one will not worry about his or her current state compared to others. While I observe the madman and the beggar as I pig into roasted pork my mind wandered if it they think of love as a necessity ? Do they miss another soul to point it wretched theirs? Do they have any misgiving at all of a relationship that had turned south?
The world had been more tolerant of the third sex so watching them have special someone somehow makes me green with envy.Because against all odds true love finds them.
While I peruse my friends in the social network I can't help feel depressed because irregardless how flawed they are at least they get to love and be loved in return while I have no one other than my kin and friends.
Yes I am but human these pangs of loneliness does finds me from time to time.Waves of negative emotions race through my veins it takes conscious effort not to self pity.
I am grateful for the company's friends and relatives no matter how brief to take me off this negatives vibes For them to draw me back into what's good about living is something I am eternally grateful.
So while couples get cozy exchanging mushy lines what does a single girl like me do? To be bitter would be an easy road to take but I'd rather not. I choose to remind myself that I am single because I have long decided that some relationships are not worth sticking into. Some things can't be bought by money like trust, time and love. So for now I'll content myself with chocolates I purchase for myself like the rest of my single friends.
And because I made some foolish love choices in the past it does not mean I am doomed for a life of solitude. I wish to believe that somewhere out there is a man after my own spirit. A man who equally wants me as he in mine. Till then I am not ready to settle. I would for the meantime occupy my head of the work to be done, of studies that needs to be finished ,travel destinations to cross out of my bucket list and endeavors that brings me joy.
So to all single girls out there I hope you know humans as we are we do break our hearts over relationship that crushed. But I hope you also know, your value is not pegged on a man's lack of appreciation for your real worth.
Kissing toads would be an option most would recommend given your ticking biological time clock but I beg to disagree. Instead, save your energies and waste not a fraction of your time on men who is not equally into you. Because precious as you are not everyone is worthy of you. So go ahead love yourself because one cannot love others if one has not much love from within to give.Love yourself enough to let go of relationships that doesn't satisfy your emotional needs in a relationship. It's not your life task to fix broken men.
Till next time,
Ayn