selfesteem = internal + external validation.
its our designers schema that keeps us in check and pushes us toward efficiency.
how ? if its not clear yet. when you are not validated ( when your actions dont have the expected / desired outcome ) it means (most of the time) you fucked up and had the wrong perspective coming into it.
so your selfesteem drops, minus validation = minus selfesteem, and your initial perspective on life starts wobbling. as it should considering it was not close enough to reality.
this is where good concepts come in. especially the concept " be grateful for low selfesteem and lack of validation " . this is where you grow. and any joe can tell you, perfection is non existing, so growth is infinite. the sooner and faster you grow the better.
so it makes all the sense to embrace low selfesteem and depression (and the introvertion that it brings) rebalance the equation and get a new approach. closer to the truth.
gonna make a sidestop for introvertion and selfesteem. people tend to go defensive in all kinds of way, nothing new there. so the thought that introversion = low selfesteem .. and not ur usual low selfesteem but one that is ingrained in your personality .. it means you are kind of disabled doesnt it ?
how the two fit together:
highselfesteem, by definition is expression, its sharing and driving and manipulating the universe. your data is so damn valid, you are so sure of it considering all the validation you are getting, that you know for sure it will pay off and it will improve everything.
dont think theres any extra expanation for this needed, but when you shut down and feel like "not sharing" its clear that you dont value your phylosophy enough. meaning you lack the concepts or means to argument it and make it shown.
this being the case, of course you dont deserve selfesteem or to be a promoter of values.
of course, the system is not perfect, because it was not conceived for the amount of individuals currently inhabiting earth. because if most people are flawed > flawed people validated flawed phylosophies, and its not black and white , a grade 4 phylosophy might bring grade 7 results in some contexts considering all the chaos.
the point is, the internet popped up, and now we have the tool to clean up all the dirt. with this tool the numbers are no longer a problem. in formation flows (as it does right this moment)
so it boils down to getting a sane philosophy, meaning a sane batch of concepts that help you navigate events and conflicts. (the neverending warmth of conflicts)
what concepts can you derive from this article?