Holaaah steemians! I have a tips here how can you mend your broken heart. So, before anything else, what is love? Why is love painful sometimes? Well, for me, if you really love the person you need to let go them and think that it's the best way to do to yourself. Love is painful sometimes because not every hour, not every seconds, not every minute the person we love can also love us back. So sad but reality hurts y'know hahahaha but that's okay.
So, as we all know, all of us experienced being inlove, being love by the person we love and also others experienced being unloved or in other words brokenhearted.
I know how it feels to be brokenhearted because I experienced it 2 times. I know how hard it is to ease the pain yet i'm still strong to conquer the pain (charot) hahaha. All of us wants to feel the kind of love that is truthful and permanent but nothing has permanent. So that's why not everytime we're happy inlove. Sometimes we also feel heartbreak.
“To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.” Especially if you are the one who wanted the relationship to last. Mending a broken heart is never easy. There is no quick way to stop your heart from hurting so much. To stop loving isn’t an option. When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love even more fruitful.
But how do we get beyond the pain? Here are some tips I’ve gathered from experts and from conversations with friends on how they patched up their heart and tried, ever so gradually, to move on.
• Go through it, not around it.
I realized the most difficult task for a person with a broken heart is to stand still and feel the crack. But that is exactly what she must do. Because no shortcut is without its share of obstructions. Here’s a simple fact: You have to grieve in order to move on.
• Detach and revel in your independence again.
Attempting to fill the void yourself without rushing to a new relationship or trying desperately to win your lover back is essentially what detaching is all about. The Buddha taught that attachment that leads to suffering. So the most direct path to happiness and peace is detachment.
• Allow some fantasizing.
Grief wouldn’t be the natural process that it should be without some yearning for the person you just lost.
• Help someone else.
When I’m in pain, the only guaranteed antidote to my suffering is to box up all of my feelings, sort them, and then try to find a use for them. When you turn your attention to another person especially someone who is struggling with the same kind of pain, you forget about yourself for a split moment. And let’s face it, that, on some days, feels like a miracle.
• Laugh. And cry.
Laughter heals on many levels and so does crying. You think it’s just a coincidence that you always feel better after a good cry? Nope, there are many physiological reasons that contribute to the healing power of tears. Some of them have been documented by biochemist and among to their findings is that emotional tears (as compared to tears of irritation, like when you cut an onion) contain toxic biochemical byproducts, so that weeping removes these toxic substances and relieves emotional stress. So, go grab a box of Kleenex and cry your afternoon away.
• Make a good and bad list.
You need to know which activities will make you feel good, and which ones will make you want to toilet paper your ex-lover’s home. You won’t really know which activity belongs on which list until you start trying things, but I suspect that things like checking out his wall on Facebook and seeing that he has just posted a photo of his gorgeous new girlfriend is not going to make you feel good, so put that on the “don’t attempt” list, along with e-mails and phone calls to his buddies fishing for information about him. On the “feels peachy” list might be found such ventures as: deleting all of his e-mails and voicemails, pawning off the jewelry he gave you (using the cash for a much-needed massage) and others.
• Work it out.
Working out your grief quite literally by running, swimming, exercising, walking, or kick-boxing is going to give you immediate relief. On a physiological level because exercise increases the activity of serotonin and/or norepinehrine and stimulates brain chemicals that foster growth of nerve cells but also on an emotional level, because you are taking charge and becoming the master of your mind and body. Plus you can visualize the fellow who is responsible for your pain and you can kick him in the face. Now doesn’t that feel good?
• Create a new world.
This is especially important if your world has collided with his, meaning that mutual friends who have seen him in the last week feel the need to tell you about it. Create your own safe world full of new friends who wouldn’t recognize him in a crowd and don’t know how to spell his name where he is not allowed to drop by for a figurative or literal surprise visit. Take this opportunity to try something new scuba diving lessons, an art class, a book club, a blog so to program your mind and body to expect a fresh beginning without him or her.
• Find hope.
“There is one emotion that is stronger than fear, and that is forgiveness.” But forgiveness requires hope: believing that a better place exists, that the aching emptiness experienced in your every activity won’t be with you forever, that one day you’ll be excited to make coffee in the morning or go to a movie with friends. Hope is believing that the sadness can evaporate, that if you try like hell to move on with your life, your smile won’t always be forced. Therefore in order to forgive and to move past fear, you need to find hope. :)
So in every problem, it has a solution. You may feel heartbreak but don't lose hope because God has a better plan for you. Don't hesitate to do it and remember to love again <3
That's all steemians. I hope that all the tips written above is really a great big help to mend your broken heart. Thankyouuuuu :* UPVOTE AND RESTEEM IS LIKELY APPRECIATED :)
