Boosting one's self confidence isn't actually a day job because it takes time and it requires consistent effort and practice. I sometimes wonder how some people are very confident in themselves while some people lack confidence in themselves. I won't be skeptical and hypocritical about this though but I actually used to suffer from the lack of self confidence and this really affected me in my career and relationship with people or is it because I am just kind of introverted? 😑
I actually started my journey of building myself confidence ever since I disgraced myself for not be able to speak with my fellow colleagues in school when I was called by my lecturer to explain my group project even though I took part in the activity. I noticed my legs shaking and my heart breathing very fast when facing the crowds with different looks on their faces. I noticed my voice was even shaking and I had to run away from the stage without delivering the speech due to my lack of confidence.
My lack of confidence also affected my social life in terms of interacting with people and the problem always increases when interacting with the opposite sex. I actually don't have the confidence to face the opposite sex not to talk of speaking with them. The sad reality is that the lack of self confidence can make you loose lot of opportunities you can ever imagine. This is why every successful people have a common trait of "self confidence" which makes them achieve their goals or aim of being successful.
I will list some tips that can help you boost your self confidence and they are really working perfectly for me on my journey of building myself confidence. Check out the list below ;
#1 BE YOURSELF: The first step of being confident is to actually be yourself. You just have to be real to yourself and stop living someone else's life. Always be yourself and keep staying true to yourself. Don't fake your personality and always stay true to yourself. You alone know your strength and weaknesses which implies that you have to work on your weaknesses and focus more on your strength. Bill Gates once said "living someone else's life is like a great insult to one's self". When you are yourself, you are actually a step forward to boost yourself confidence.
#2 LOVE YOURSELF: You can't actually love yourself if you can't be yourself. Loving yourself means accepting yourself and forgiving yourself for your mistakes and weakness. Always make sure you love yourself no matter what happens to you and see how your confidence boost up automatically. Aren't you really astonished when you see people who are lesser than you in status and appearance looking more confident? This is actually because they love themselves for whom they are. Start loving yourself and watch how you boost your confidence automatically.
#3 BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: This is actually the most important tip you need to boost your self confidence. Believing in yourself is the major key or ingredient required to boost one's self confidence. When you believe in yourself, you are already confident. The fact is that you can't believe in yourself if you don't practice the first two tips listed above because they are very vital ingredients in believing in one's self. The day you start believing in yourself is the day you start boosting your self confidence.
#4 FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT : This really sounds funny though but can you just pretend to be confident? or act like you are already confident? When you fake it, people will actually think you are confident in yourself and thus, they start seeing you as someone who is confident. If people starts seeing you as someone who is confident then you should also start seeing yourself the same way they think of you. I am actually using this strategy and it's really working for me perfectly most especially when I want to woo or flirt with different cute people of the opposite sex.
In conclusion, these are the four tips I have for you and I hope they really help you boost your self confidence.
Thanks for reading and I hope this helps.