Sex has been in the news now for months in such a negative way. I stare and wonder, because: “am I the only woman that only had positive experiences with sex?” Sex should be fun, it should be good, for both parties. In all my years, I seem to only meet men, that want to make sure that women are pleased with what they do in bed, or at least they say they do. They want the woman to scream out in pleasure, that it is great. Why is there so much negativity around sex?
Sure, I have heard quite a lot of stories of friends that are not satisfied with their sex live. My reference point are women that are around their 40’s and it might be cliché, but being around this age means we are wise and old enough to know what we want and just to enjoy, at the same time the hormones tell us there is a last chance of a baby, which increases the sex drive. What an unfortunate event that it takes about 20 years to get to this state. I do have quite a fridget woman in my friend base, and I don’t envy her husband, as I am sure it is almost a sexless marriage (officially a sexless marriage is when you do it less than 11 times a year, within the marriage of course ). I don’t say she should be different, she is sculpted by her past, and seems to drag it with her. And I wonder how long a sexless marriage can hold? We often blame the partner for having an affair, we live in a world where we shame the non-monogamous, where it is not done to look at others, but I understand very well that if there isn’t any at home, that you go out to seek it. Even if the relationship is good at home, and loving, why do we restrain ourselves and is monogamy an expression of love?
I wonder anyway, why the world is so prudish, why we shame people, why if there is a naked picture on the web, this is horrible and a problem for one’s career? Why are we as people so ashamed of what we do as a species? With more openness, I believe that we would be less controlled by dogma’, by shame and woman would be less controlled and ashamed and blamed, and maybe start enjoying sex more already when we are young, instead of 20 years later.