Sometimes, we try to change our identity for the sake of gaining others' approval.
By doing that, we compromise heavily on our natural gifts and abilities!!
When we are kids , we have no clue about peer pressure , about the external forces that pull us into trying to change the way we think and behave in front of certain people, and certain circumstances.
As we grow up , we are pressured into faking our true identity. Self-doubt makes us think that we are not good enough for this world!!
In this world of pretentions and over expectations, we gradually and sometimes sub consciously start losing ourselves ,our originality, or our true inner self!!
We start judging and criticising ourselves, as we are judged and criticised by others.
We mistreat ourselves. We underestimate our competence as we are looked down upon by the people around us!!
A time comes when we are unable to fight for ourselves and take a stand for our right to be accepted as we are.!!
This could happen due to the neglect and abuse that is enforced on us either by our parents or by our peers and then by our bosses and spouses as we become adults!!
As I have tried to discuss the reasons for losing our authentic selves during the journey of life, I would further move towards the solutions and the emphasis on the vital role of preservation of our true identity and personality!!
As it is rightly said, " Be yourself yourself !! Everyone else is already taken "
A few of the factors influencing the way we try to copy others and to be like them are majorly related to our upbringing
The way our self-esteem is injured and our self-confidence being shattered has a lot to do with the influences we get from the people and the situations around us.
No matter how much we try to put the blame on others , ultimately, we will have to take responsibility for ourselves , for our own mental health!!
When we are proactive and we control our reactions towards the abuse and injustices we face in our daily lives , we can surely find creative ways to preserve our inner voice and our natural powers!!
Positive self-image and self-talk play a vital role in keeping us aware of our strengths and weaknesses.
I remember when I was a teen ager, I used to repeat the sentence, " I approve of myself." It really helped me accept myself, including my qualities as well as my weaknesses in a positive way.!!
Positive affirmations can really play a great role in this regard.
Hope we all will understand that we are unique in our own way, and that's something that needs to be celebrated , cherished, and utilised for our own well-being and for the world as well!!