I thought I would today tell wife’s how to keep their husbands happy, but once I started to research the topic I come to see that before wive's can start to keep their husband's happy they need to know how their husband's sexuality works.
Most women know that sex is very important for men in their marriages. The average wife would acknowledge that her husband’s sex drive is stronger than hers, but she still underestimates the importance of this on their marriage. Husband’s often felt that their wives don't understand his sex drive and they feel alone with their secrets and desires and don’t know how to communicate this to their wives. Wifes make their husbands feel like there is something wrong with them for wanting sex more. It is seen as passion without love, or a sex drive without self-control.
When men were asked if there is something that they could change in their marriage, 80-90% said they wish they had a better sex life and that their wives would more initiate sex. Lots of women think that men are only interested in their own needs but the majority of men also said that mutual pleasure is important for them. So although there are a time and a place for a “quickie” in the long run, that would not make for you husband to be happy with his sex life.
One of the biggest differences between you and your husband is the fact that he experiences sex as a physical need. His sexual need is determined by the presence of testosterone in his body. Immediately after sex, he feels a release but as his body starts to build up sperm again he will feel another need for sexual release. Women don’t experience the physiological drive for sex in the same way. A woman’s sexuality is far more connected to her emotions and hormones.
Although his sex drive is a physical need it has a big impact on his emotional, marital and spiritual well-being. Men’s confidence and a greater sense of well-being are related to his ability to perform sexually, to arouse and please his wife. So then a fulfilling sex life also become an emotional need for a husband. If a wife just goes through the motions it is not enough for a husband. He longs to know that he is pleasing his wife and that she is sexually interested in him. A wife cannot say, I love my husband, but reject him sexually. His sexuality is part of who he is both as a man and a husband.
Then lastly, men's sex life impacts their spiritual life. It is a daily battle for men to not give in to all the temptations around them. If his sexual needs are fulfilled there is a far bigger chance that he will stay loyal, not give in to temptations, like to have an affair, watching porn, etc. I am not saying if your husband does this it is your fault. He is still responsible for his own life and the choices he makes, but resisting the temptations will be much easier for him if he has a good marriage where his physical and emotional needs are met.
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https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/sex-and-intimacy/understanding-your-husbands-sexual-needs