There are ways you can interact with your mate so he or she responds with love, kindness, and affection, demonstrating that he or she is downright head over heels in love with you.
• Reevaluating your perspective. The choices you make have predictable effects. This is particularly true when it comes to deciding whether to view your spouse from a positive or negative perspective. Even during difficult times, you can choose to amplify the positive.
• Choosing rose-coloured glasses. When you choose to focus on the positive in your spouse, you’ll be happier, healthier and able to relate more effectively. Learn when to focus on a problem and when to ignore it. Even if you are in a challenging marriage, you can learn how to build a bridge.
• Bringing out the best qualities of your spouse.
Learn not only to notice your spouse’s best qualities but how to amplify them and create an environment where they can thrive.
• Remembering the reason your mate loves you. Your mate fell in love with some magical qualities in you. Are they still apparent Do you remember why he or she fell in love with you, and are you nurturing those traits in yourself?
• Giving up distractions to the dream. Calling forth your mate’s best qualities takes focus. Give up distractions and practice recognizing, amplifying, and remembering these qualities again and again. You must notice, pay attention to and attend to the qualities you want in your relationship.
• Embracing the ripple effect. When you notice what’s wonderful about your spouse and he or she notices what’s great about you, good feelings ripple back and forth in the relationship. You have the power to begin this wave of positive feelings, positive behaviours and positive attitudes. You have the power to change negative patterns into positive ones.
• Preparing your best to meet your spouse’s best. Instead of focussing on destructive patterns, agree not only to notice each other’s best but also to nurture it and allow your best to be front and centre as well.
• Nurturing your mate’s dreams. Your mate has his or her own ideas and dreams. These hopes can be nurtured and encouraged, in fact, everything you do to actively encourage your mate’s dreams will build intimacy.
• Teaching your mate to nurture your dreams. When you nurture your spouse’s dreams he and she are more likely to nurture yours. And when you dream together, a powerful bond occurs.
• Unleashing the power of positive gossiping.
When you focus on the positive qualities of your mate, you naturally talk about him or her. Telling others about your spouse makes his or her positive qualities more real to you and creates an extremely favourable dynamic in the relationship.
• Initiating change by encouragement. It is no secret - we make changes more easily and effectively with encouragement than with criticism. While encouragement breeds cooperation and trust, criticism breeds resentment and hostility. Learn to create an environment filled with positivity, warmth, and encouragement.
• Maintaining mutual admiration. It takes intentionality and focus to maintain positive momentum. Resist the natural temptation to slip into negativity and regression, and insist on a mutually admiring relationship.
POSITIVITY IS WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT. DETERMINE TO BRING THE BEST OUT IN YOUR SPOUSE AND ENCOURAGE HIM/HER TO BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOU. THE RESULTS WILL BE REVOLUTIONARY.
While it takes an effort to SHIFT from the CRITICISM and NEGATIVISM that come naturally, you CAN DO IT. If you are INTENTIONAL, you can CHOOSE a new PERSPECTIVE that will POSITIVELY CHANGE your RELATIONSHIP!
You are facing the OPPORTUNITY OF A LIFETIME, a chance to DISCOVER your SOUL MATE and BE a SOUL MATE. The CHANGE must BEGIN with YOU, but I GUARANTEE your mate can’t help but RESPOND FAVORABLY to these changes.
GOOD LUCK!
Source: Dr. David Hawkins,90 Days to a fantastic marriage, Tyndale House Publishers Inc
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