Living in the past steals away the happiness you have at present. Forgiveness is not just something you have to learn but also something you have to desire. Know that to forgive is to let go of the past and experience the beauty of the present. It gives you a sense of awe on what the future may hold for you. When you decide to forgive, you are saying goodbye to the past. It is too dangerous, depressing and unproductive to live in the past. The present moment is all that you can change. You don't have to squander it away with an unforgiving heart. Forgiveness is moving forward. You don't use as much energy when you forgive. The decision not to forgive is more exhausting. When you decide to forgive, you may leave yourself vulnerable, but it is your way of saying, "i want my life to work again.."