This is what I want to discuss and talk about today, how do we make our lives happy?
In Islamic teachings, there are several ways to deal with this life so that our lives become happy.
1) Don't look up
If we want to live happily, then the first thing we have to do is not to see the person above us, the person whose social and economic status is above us. For example, you only have a bicycle for daily transportation. You should not look at people who already have motorbikes and cars.
If there is a neighbor who has a NMAX brand motorcycle, we should not be jealous of where he has. If you want to ask the price, it's allowed, with conditions;
- You have the desire to buy it in the near future, and
- You already have funds to buy it.
This is in accordance with the words of the Prophet: "Look at those who are under you and do not see anyone who is above you, for it is better so that you do not underestimate the Favors that Allah gives". (Hadith: Ahmad, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah)
Because seeing the person above us will only make envil, jealousy, kufr favors and the worst is to blame Allah's destiny.
So looking down in the sense of looking at people who are below us is the right solution so that we are always grateful to the blessings given by God.
If we only have a bicycle, other people don't have any vehicles. Other people, his feet have a problem next to him. Other people cannot walk.
Make friends with them. You will be thankful for having legs and bikes to ride. Don't get along with people who are richer.
2) Don't compare yourself with anyone
The second tip we have to do if we want to live happily is do not compare or distinguish ourselves from anyone. Let everything run naturally. We are not them, they are not us. Because the difference between us is Sunnatullah. Humans are indeed created different from one another.
When we like to compare ourselves with others, it becomes a problem. He eats rice, just like me, but why his handsome is different from me, his smart is different from me, and so on?
Parents also often commit the same sin. One child can always rank one, why is another child always sagged. Although which fools are their mother and father, they do not know the talents and expertise of the child. Without realizing it, parents are the cause of children's sadness.
Then the right solution to this problem is as the word of God:
Don't expect God's gifts to be found in other people [An-Nisa: 32]
3) Don't associate your happiness with others
There is an interesting phenomenon among young people when broken hearted, when love is rejected. Usually those who his love is rejected crying because they feel, "They can't live without their lover". "There is no other woman as good as his lover."
This is the attitude of connecting happiness with others. Assuming if not with him (lover), we would live suffering. It is precisely this self-closing habit that actually blocks the arrival of other happiness. So actually, what makes us happy is God, nobody, and also not our lover.
The feeling that no one else is worthy of being with us is a result of lack of a picnic / traveling / tour. So in this case, Imam Syafii in his poem said:
Travel, you find a replacement for her who has separated from you. [Imam Syafi'i]
4) Don't dissolve in the past
Time is the fastest creature of God. A second ago he left, we will never see him again. Using any vehicle, we will never be able to catch up.
So, therefore, the pursuit of time that has passed is a mere futile act. Moreover, chasing after nostalgic memories, memories and feelings of love. it's just useless.
This is the reason we are prohibited from looking back (past).
Since we once helped A, now he is tyrannizing us. It will only make us regret doing good. Finally, there is a feeling of not sincere, hateful and even hateful riya.
Remember how sweet courtship is. Why after marriage, is not as beautiful as before when we were dating. Only will trap us to sin and break the sweetness of faith. Especially if his girlfriend marry someone else.
Imagining and remembering the beauty of being a kid of rich people, in past a net income of 8-10 million per day. It will only erase faith in fate.
5) Live simply (not rich and not poor)
There are interesting quotes that I often find on social media like Facebook, "happy is simple". It turned out that after I pondered there was some truth to it.
Simple is another term for happiness. Happy is simple, simple is happy. If you want to be happy, you have to be simple.
What makes our lives suffer, actually squeezed and depressed is not a necessity of life but a lifestyle.
For example, the sofa in our house is still a good old man, we replace it with the latest model just because it is not old and does not match the design of the room.
Similar cases often occur in accessories and gadgets. If you already have a bag, you don't need to buy new as long as you don't need it.
Having a smartphone doesn't need to be replaced as long as you can for communication. Do not get to because it is not strong gaming, or have a friend's camera is clearer, then make use of buying new.
I still remember the physics formula I learned when I was in high school,
P = F?
Style is the same as pressure. That is, the more style the more pressure. In the sense that the more we follow lifestyle, the more depressed our lives will be because the more pressure of life. By living simply, we have indirectly simplified the problem to become easier.
No matter how difficult life is, the solution is how is the lifestyle that we apply to find happiness in life.
May we all find happiness in this short life.
Thak You For Your Time
