We are lucky to live in the best times in the entire history, the times when, thanks to highly advanced technology, you can literally meet your "soulmate" just with a matter of a few clicks. From time to time however, the mainstream and the society w live in tends to put in our minds some code, some kind of pattern of behaviour and expectations of what we should look for in a relationship or what we should look for in people we want to be in relationship with. These expectations are good, as long as live in accordance to them and can identify with them. The problem begins when you don't match the pattern programmed into your head. Today we are going to take a look on how mass media influence our view on love, dating and sex.

Find "the one" or be lonely forever.

I assume most of you have experience similar to mine. Most of us gain their first knowledge about sex from American Pie style movies where characters have basically one goal: have fun, drink and fuck as much as you can. But then, romantic comedies came and bring their happy & everlasting love concept into the game.

Presenting one and only life-long relationship, pop culture put us in a constant need for seeking for "the one" and terrible fear of being alone. Nowadays, there are plenty of women that are wonderful, but due to some failures in the they stucked in this awful belief that they are not just meant to be happy. On the other hand, there are quite a lot of people who are not suitable for relationships at all. Even then, the social pressure makes them to rotate moving from one partner to another, makes them think that this is exactly what they want and that living alone is identyfied like being an antisocial allien from an outer space.

Dating fashion & hookup trend

Speaking of moving from one partner to another... Technology has indenable impact on our lives. With the expansion of services like Tinder finding someone that matches your preferences has become easier than ever before. But where are profits, there are also some drawbacks.

Along with accesability, there was noticed an ongoing trend for neglecting already existing relationships. Thinks about for a moment. Why would I waste my time and energy in creating bounds that may eventually turn into fiasco? I could just pick up a girl for one night and then simply switch to another one? There are dozens of hot chicks in my area. Fast, easy, quick, and what's most important - casual.

There is also a problem of lack of communication. People who dived into digital dating too much may have more problems with converting their relationships to the next level. There are difficulties with setting up requirements and boundries, there is fear of confronting with the reality. In the end, such relationships seem to fall apart much more often.

Life is NOT "50 Shades of Grey"

Whether you like it or not, she will not get a triple orgasm just from staring at her and he is not a billioner that will fuck out a way to heaven for you. This just doesn't work that way. He is often tired, she got always a headache. This is a routine of a daily life that you you have to overcome every day, step by step, TOGETHER.

People who watch romantic, erotic, and especially porn movies may actually have problems with over-expectations regarding they sex life. They try to "translate over" the standarts to their real situation. Standards where women with big boobs and great as are happy to be pounded 10 times a day. Standards where handsome, big strong men with 10-inch dicks were born just to fuck her until the world ends. This distortion in perceiving the reality may result in great dissapointments later in life.

You are a game-changer

Let me be clear: culture we are in along with technology create together an outstanding tool to simplify our life. It's just good to know the risks and mechanisms that mass media use to basically give us what we want, to be aware of those mechanisms. And the real way to become a "perfect lover?" TALKING. Talk to your partner. Talk a lot. DO NOT pretend that there is no problem. That way you can quickly react to the situation and find the proper solution, TOGETHER.