For them, even if they don't pay well...

Many times the most jealous person is the one who has the most morally questionable behavior... It will be that too... is there a projection?

Absence also leaves deep marks. What is not reciprocal, ends up becoming something harmful.

Abandonment, out of jealousy hurts. When you change the story you tell yourself, you change the life you allow yourself. The bond with the other is a way of exploring each other, with the other we discover facets of who one is sometimes the storm that comes not to drown us, but to make us flourish.

That's why, every time I talk, write or feel jealous, I remember Miguel de Cervantes, I want to say that if, jealousy are signs of love, that having them is a sign of having life, but a sick and unhealthy life, because they threaten our health metal.

Jealousy is valid as a feeling, but it does not justify everything. And I know that there are many people who romanticize them as a form of affection or attention, even going so far as to say "if you're not jealous of me, you don't love me," an erratic and emotional phrase. Although I do not share this appreciation, I do not intend to judge those who feel this way…

What I do come to warn is that using jealousy as a pretext, since they seem to allow any excessive behavior, even in some criminal cases by virtue of the fear that someone feels of being betrayed, or losing what they think is theirs.

No one is exempt from feeling jealous, or even from having had an outburst from that place. However, this does not mean that it is OK, that it is suitable or even celebrated.

Personally, I think it is exhausting and sterile to believe that by dint of scolding or persecution you can get the other to love you. But that's me, now that's not the only face of jealousy, what the other does or my fears…

And before anyone accuses me of thinking that anything goes, I want to make it clear that I do not consider infidelities or betrayals to be okay. Not at all, but I do think that acting out of jealousy doesn't prevent you from being cheated on. And if he did it would be sad to think that the other only behaves well out of fear of scolding, a situation that usually leads nowhere. But there is no definitive version…

It is worth warning that you can receive different things in life than you expect and that's fine, but not receiving anything when you give everything is undoubtedly a lousy business.

In the face of jealousy, what should arise is a question: where do they come from? Is that the other one? Are my fears or insecurities talking?... What do you think?

Janitze.🌷