It is necessary to nurture the worthy, and ...

Destroy the predator...

Trust as a couple is one of the topics that generates the most debate, and I understand why. Look, we live in an age where stories of betrayal are everywhere and where protecting yourself emotionally is easily mistaken for wisdom.

But there is a huge difference between choosing someone wisely and entering a relationship already expecting them to fail you.

The first is emotional intelligence, the second is a wound that is still active directing decisions that should be made from another place, watch out for that... Ya!!! I had to live it, at least one learns from this. This is one of my personal mottos.

We don't always decide what will happen in our lives, hopefully we try to choose how to deal with it. And my starting point with EVERYTHING is how can I learn from what happened to me? Especially of those things that I do not enjoy in any link that may be with the relationship of couple, family, with friends...

There are times when we take advantage of events that seemed unfortunate and we say “everything happens for a reason”, but there are terrible things that I think should never have happened, but even in those cases I think that if we have already had to live it, have the experience, the best way to reduce its damage or impact is by learning from it.

Even though learning does not erase the pain, but allows it to become useful, fruitful, nourished, and not sterile. And if we look at it correctly, EVERYTHING TEACHES, and everything is learned. We may even learn how not to do something, or what we should do so that it does not happen again.

Today, if you have to face challenges or difficulties, allow yourself to ask the question, what can I learn from this? No one heals in the same place where they broke up pretending that everything is fine.

I think I'm not the only one who wants to live in peace, start a family and live with the love of my life for the rest of my life? It's not that hard, the hard thing is to really connect with someone.

Because although trusting is not a guarantee of anything, it is a decision that is made knowing that the other is human, that they can make mistakes, and that if something goes wrong you have the internal solidity to handle it. Love is not forced. It is sustained with security, presence and deservedness.

If there is anything more beautiful than to love, it is to be loved while you love.

There are people who love you when everything is easy, and accompany us when only at parties. And there are people who choose you when it hurts, when you tremble, when you make a mistake.

I invite you, to look for the second ones, because they support you even in the storm.

Janitze 🌹