Liking each other is more important than being in love, liking and respect are so important that they really lead to our partner being our best friend.
To do this, good communication in a relationship requires listening and talking, but above all it requires time, talking long, deeply and extensively for a long period of time. From my experience with my partner, men tend to be direct and women tend to be indirect.
I think that something that can improve communication is for women to be clearer and more direct, because men tend to interrupt women when we talk, I always tell the men around me, I recommend that they get ready to listen to women, to ask, to inquire... To know what the fuck is going on in the relationship. Because one of the great problems of relationships is that we try to change the other. It is always healthy to accept the other person lovingly and unconditionally, and that leads us to change, and naturally, to work on our self-esteem, on the concept of oneself, to set important goals, and that, somehow minimizes jealousy and that excess of self-pity that leads us to feel sorry for ourselves.
Since if we deal with important goals we do not have time to think about intrusive, and harmful topics that make us waste time and energy especially when there is jealousy.
On many occasions the couples that we were compatible become incompatible, because we grow at different rates and it shows in that they no longer laugh together as before. Friendship goes away, people no longer see each other as friends, they feel obliged to be together, and jealousy comes.
If as a couple we have the power to go to Mass together, cook, eat together, shop at the supermarket, travel to be together, walk holding hands, have difficult conversations, make plans, sleep together, save in silence, decide together, live on the same roof, then we are a couple that has more power than we think.
Let's not accept a relationship in which we do not enjoy immensely, let's make sure that there is laughter, future, and if incompatibility occurs, we must accept it, for our health and future.
No success in personal or public life compensates for failure at home. Because relationships don't break down all at once, rather they waste away when they are left on autopilot. It is much better to set limits at the beginning of the relationship, that is not a guarantee that there will be no conflicts, but it protects it so that the bond does not cool down.
They say that jealousy is based on the inferiority complex, feeling that we are not worth enough.What do you value in your relationship with your partner?
Janitze 🌹
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