When your parents facilitate you to do something and forbid you not to do another thing, you find it annoying at that time. You don't understand why they are doing it. you feel angry and sad. You do it anyway, get in trouble or you listen to them. Both ways you end up thanking your parents after you realize it when you grow up.
When you see someone else in public say things to their kids that you judge right away to be bizarre, you promise yourself not to do the same. One way or the other, you have vague ideas of what to and what not to say to your kids when you become a parent.
But the truth is, once you become a parent and realize it’s not just candies and diapers, laughter and meaningless cries (whether they are your tears or theirs), everything your parents said to you, makes perfect sense.
Here are some things you are going to say when you become a parent:
⦁ What do you want?
Often times when you are travelling with your kids and you stop at a drive-thru, you ask your kids what they’d like to get. They start arguing and deciding what to and what not to get. And you have to yell to stop the order their meals yourself then.
But this isn’t the case we’re talking about when we say this phrase “What do you want?” This basically happens when your kids are being super annoying. We know all the moms are secretly smiling because that’s one fact but you can’t and won’t tell your kids that they are annoying at least 80% of the time. They’re being all fidgety and moody for something they want to get. You give it to them, but they’re still sulky and sullen. You just can’t take it anymore so you have to yell not once, not twice, but several times asking them “what EXACTLY do you want?”
⦁ I say what I mean, I mean what I say
This one phrase has probably been passed on from generations to generations. And this is basically said when you actually don’t know what logic to present to your kid when you stop them from doing something. This phrase comes to help you out of nowhere to make your kids keep quiet and obeying. Give your facial expressions some livid looks like it and it’s double effective. (You can thank us later)
⦁ I have no idea what you’re talking about
This is one of the most common phrases parents use. Seems like you will actually say this too when you have no idea what they are talking about. Truth is, sometimes, you say it when you do know things but you yet don’t want to damage their innocence so you work with this saying. A simple and easy way for them to forget it later.
⦁ Don’t ever do that again
Ok so chiefly, you either say “Don’t ever do that again” or “Don’t ever say that again.” Maybe it’s a bad word they have uttered, which mostly is your own fault as you were the ‘inventor’ of it in the house. One way or the other, quite frankly, you will be saying this A LOT!
⦁ Let me sleep
We all know no one ever says this phrase in such a low, soft short sentence. Especially when you know you were up all day busy in doing your kids’ work. While your kids played and napped on, you had to wake up at least an hour before they have to go to school.
And when you finally lie down and just start to feel comfortable, they hop in your bedroom with their little tantrums. That’s when you either yell with your full might to leave the room, settle the affairs on your own.
⦁ I love you
It doesn’t matter how super infuriating, exasperating your kids are, or if they don’t always get an A on their tests, or if they aren’t how you want them to be, or if what they do annoys you most of the time. And if they argue, fight back, are mean to you. Or exactly opposite of all those things, they’re still a part of you and you will always love them with all your brain and heart.
After becoming a parent these phrases, along with some other personalized of your own, will become more like a drill for you that you have to practice over a hundred times a day. But this not necessarily means that parenting is a tough nut to crack, or that your entire life will turn into a yelling machine. Some kids are so quiet and shy, you won’t even notice their existence.
Both ways, kids are the only adorable creature on this planet and this make your parenting job pleasing.