Our greatest power may be in what questions we ask because all of the answers we get in life are based on the questions we choose. As I went to write my daily post for Steem, the exact question I ask is "How may I help on Steem today" because I want these answers.
The challenge for some of us is that we often habitually ask questions and forget we have the power to choose which questions we ask. Many times on Steem I have asked "How can I earn the most rewards today" which tends to produce an entirely different set of answers from the "How may I help" line of questioning.
Here are a few examples of questions we often ask which tend to lead us into answers we do not like with alternatives that I have found more helpful!
Better Questions, Better Life!
- Instead of "What is wrong with me?" I ask "How am I feeling now?" and "What is going on here?"
- Instead of "How do I make more money?" I ask "How may I help more effectively?" and "What opportunities do I have to improve?" and "Where can I give back more?"
- Instead of "Why are these people doing this?" I ask "What can I learn from this?" and "What about their actions relates to my behavior?"
- Instead of "What should I do?" I ask "What would I LOVE to do?"
- Instead of "When will I get what I want?" I ask "How may I help today?"
Questions -> Answers -> Actions -> Feelings
Most important for me is the certainty that the questions I ask and the answers that follow lead me into actions that then have immediate feedback on how I feel. After many days unconsciously and automatically asking "how do I earn the most money today" I have learned that this leads me into actions that leave me feeling like I am not good enough and selfish.
When I ask questions founded upon making a contribution like "how may I help," the answers and actions tend to lead to good feelings of making a difference and being useful. At the same time, the rewards on a day to day basis for asking "how may I help" are often a lot lower in the short term while generally being unbelievably good in the long term when we include all forms of wealth from happiness to money to leisure time.
On Steem, many of the posts I have made which appear to have had highest impact in terms of people remembering them did not earn much in rewards compared to many of the top earners. Meanwhile, many of my "it seemed like a great idea at the time" plans for earning money not only did not work but led to a worse result than simply doing nothing at all.
Thank you very much for reading this quick post today which I hope was useful in making a real difference here and feeling hope for our future together!
Love,
Jerry Banfield