Would you like to read to explore the benefits surrounding yourself with people with a positive mind-set because this might be useful for you to choose the people you spend time with wisely.
Now the best advice I have heard about living the most fulfilling and optimistic life was given to me by a man I hold in the highest regard. A man who is a father to eight kids, plus half the neighborhood.
A man who makes the most of every situation and even if something really shitty happens, like bankruptcy or a terminal illness, focuses on the good stuff and making the most of the present moment, constantly asking, “don’t you love it?” A man who opens his door (literally) to anyone of any status or background. A man with the biggest smile and an even bigger heart and he was a friend to my dad.
“Surround yourself with positive people,” were his words of advice when I finished high school high with one of his step daughters, and it has stuck with me to this day.
Maybe some of you have heard about this saying which goes like,
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” by American entrepreneur and motivational speaker Jim Rohn.
With this in mind, you should think about the people you’re spending time with the same way you think about what you eat and how you’re exercising.
Some people can be parasites. They suck out your happiness, energy and maybe some of your tangible resources as well. You can put spending time with them in the same category as eating nachos on the couch.
So what make someone a “good” friend to spend time with? And what are the benefits of surrounding yourself with these people?
Once we think more deeply about the people we interact with, it becomes easier for us to work toward filling our lives with people who help us to cultivate healthy and positive relationships. Obviously it is not always possible - for example at work - to choose the people we spend time, but in our personal lives, we can take control over the right people with whom to surround ourselves.
All we have to do is take a few moments to reflect on how another person makes us feel.
Assessing the people we spend the most time with, allows us to see if they add something constructive to, or subtract from, our lives. If a friend saps our strength, for example, we can simply decide to tell them how we feel or else spend less time with them.
We will find that the moment we are honest with ourselves about our own feelings, the more candid we can be with others about how they make us feel.
While this may involve some drastic changes to our social life, it can bring about a personal transformation that will truly empower us, since the decision to live our truth will infuse our lives with greater happiness.
Stay Away from Negative People!
When you are looking at successful people, it's hard to find one that has a negative mind because they certainly won't be where they are if they were not positive.
Birds of a same feather flock together"and if you are around losers who complain all the time about their situation, you will end up like them. This all makes sense!
If you have 5 friends that you like to hang up with all the time and they always have a negative attitude, then guess what, you will be the same and reduce your chances of succeeding in something you want to do.
If you have them as employees, get rid of them quickly.
If you have them as close partners that you cannot stay away from, then give them less attention.
Do not ever get engaged in an arguments with someone who has a negative mindset.
Negative response from negative people could stimulate bad thoughts.
Learn to react in a productive manner.
Thanks for reading.