KINDNESS is free but some tend to abuse it from the people who give it. I believe in "give and take" thing BUT I also believe this kind of "talent" is difficult to find these days. I accept the fact that sometimes people might take advantage of my kindness but I just let them think I don't mind. I prefer to keep quiet but I do observe. In this game of life, you just have to figure out who's worth your kindness and who are just taking advantage of it.
So how do I deal with friends who take advantage of my kindness? Read on:
Don't expect - Golden rule? I guess to some it is applicable but for others, it is not. Expectation hurts. If you want to do good, go on. But sometimes put your brain to good use. Listen to it. Your brain needs to be above your heart to make decisions so it does not get broken.
Learn to say NO - If the other person is good, he will understand. Have a day on which you will deny everyone every help they ask for. Don't let them get comfortable with the idea that everytime you need them, you come running around and do whatever they want.
Don't be overly nice and kind - this is where trouble sets in. Users can see this as your "weakness" and they begin the process of using.
Don't be afraid of loss - Accept that friends will resent you if you don’t allow them to take advantage of you. It's totally okay. Simply cut them off. You don't need users in your life. You are better off without them and time to find good ones.
Don't confront - I rather keep my silence than confront and just keep my distance. I don't need drama in my life. Negativity just weighs me down.
So here are my ways of dealing users. I am not saying to stop caring and helping. Just be wise but don't be hardened and give and help with a sound mind, open eyes and open hearts because users are everywhere waiting for another victim to prey on.
